I'm glad to hear you're talking to a therapist -- you're getting the right (professional) kind of advice and coaching.
R. lost 28 pounds post-surgery when she was in cardiac rehab (less than 3 weeks), which she is in denial about that it was because she was on a controlled diet and not binging when she can get Instacart and Doordash at home, and does. Now she's back to wondering why her insulin dose has to be increased and her blood sugar surges so high. Le Sigh.
I think you're doing an amazing job in a really difficult situation, msbelle. I'm sorry things are so hard.
What ND (and everyone) has said, msbelle. I'm just sorry he's making it so hard on everyone.
Ouch, msbelle. That sounds so hard. I'm sorry. I hope he slinks away and complains to his friends and eventually gets his head on straight, rather than trying to take it out on you.
Yeah, here's hoping he gets his shit together with a quickness.
Even if he doesn't, does it help to know that all the kids I knew who were a mess at that age eventually got their shit together? And mostly did it outside of their parents' house? I know a lot of people who couldn't deal with anything at that age, some of whom wasted their parents' money on some college (but not a degree!), some of whom didn't. They all became adults!
I'm so sorry, msbelle. Is he seeing a therapist? I know my depression as a teenager often manifested anger and indecision.
Yes, what Jesse said. I know so many people, including myself, that were total screwups at that age. And grew up to be fine adults!
He has no older person that he hangs out with that could be a safe landing place. He has $41 and no job. There is no girlfriend with understanding parents who like him. None of his friends even had plans to move out of their parents' home and none of them have the means. I am sure he can spend 1-2 nights somewhere, but this without a doubt ends up with him back here or me being called to get him somewhere.
No he's not in therapy. He has refused for 3-4 years.
When he finds out he has no place to crash he may be more open to a renegotiation of terms.
Timelies all!
I'm sorry it's come to this, msbelle.