My parenting instinct is that the concert is unrelated to the math issue. It wasn't like it was a reward for school performance. Now, doing what it takes to pull it out before end of year can have a new set of reward/punishment options.
Well, if we followed the recipe...should be cake. A demon-violence-free-zone cake.
Lorne ,'Why We Fight'
Natter 76: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Foaminess
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Laura - Mar 19, 2019 10:24:22 am PDT #6126 of 30019
Our wings are not tired.
Theodosia - Mar 19, 2019 10:25:40 am PDT #6127 of 30019
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"
Am so very sorry, Laura. I'm tearing up just thinking of her and you and your family.
flea - Mar 19, 2019 10:28:32 am PDT #6128 of 30019
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I would have no qualms about still going to the concert if it didn't involve missing school to do so. The gift was not this particular concert; it was A concert in 2019. So we could find a summer concert or a concert that's on a weekend to go to. (But she wanted this act the most.)
sj - Mar 19, 2019 10:40:30 am PDT #6129 of 30019
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
If the concert was a gift and not contingent on good grades, I'd say take her if she agrees to do all homework assignments for the 4th quarter.
Jessica - Mar 19, 2019 11:20:39 am PDT #6130 of 30019
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
Since you haven't bought tickets yet, I think you can swap out a summer/weekend concert without any guilt.
Also, thanks for reminding me to check Campus Parent, because apparently my 6th grader has only turned in half of his "engagement" assignments this quarter in ELA. (Which is his favorite class EXCEPT for doing the !$%(!!@%! work because he thinks the assignments are dumb. And they might be! But still!)
Jesse - Mar 19, 2019 11:25:51 am PDT #6131 of 30019
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Oh Jess -- I'm reading this book and flipped past the references, and there was your DH! He must have quoted from one of his articles.
Jessica - Mar 19, 2019 11:30:23 am PDT #6132 of 30019
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
Oh, cool! I wonder if he knows? (It's his birthday today.)
Jesse - Mar 19, 2019 11:31:12 am PDT #6133 of 30019
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
My boss walked in my office before I had a chance to say -- flea, I think you could fairly do either thing, and that is a shitty situation for you to be in. But I probably wouldn't buy the tickets.
Jessica - Mar 19, 2019 11:51:24 am PDT #6134 of 30019
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
Jesse, can you text me a picture of the reference with DH's name in it? I'm curious to see if it was an article or his book.
Kate P. - Mar 19, 2019 11:55:29 am PDT #6135 of 30019
That's the pain / That cuts a straight line down through the heart / We call it love
My first instinct was to say take her to the concert, but after hearing that the gift wasn't this specific concert, but any concert in 2019, I think it's fine to say that you no longer think it's a good idea to take her out of school for 2 days for this specific show. That seems like an eminently reasonable consequence of not doing her work: having to choose another concert instead that won't interfere with school. (Easy for me to say, I know! I don't envy you having to deliver that message, if that's what you end up deciding to do.)
But, I mean, I also don't think you'd be a bad parent for taking her to the concert anyway.