Wise advice given to me in my youth was that we have an obligation to ourselves to express our thoughts and opinions, with the understanding that other adults get to make their own decisions and have their own opinions. No Matter How Wrong They Are! It's frustrating, but a whole lot more stressful to just bite the tongue and not make an effort to inform.
It is no fun at all when you are called out on your own prejudices or inappropriate behavior, and it takes a lot to recognize and learn from this. Much of my life I was super defensive and I recognize and fight that when I see it happening.
Exactly. I wouldn't have bothered if I didn't care about his wife, but I've said what I need to say now, I think, so all I can do is ignore him when I see him in person.
And there's the neighbor's stereo system again.
Trying to figure out what's a reasonable expectation. I don't really want to hear it all day, but can we only complain when it's early morning or late night?
Ha, he'll probably be avoiding you too so it will work out!
Dana, they at least have to know that you can hear it. I hear my neighbor's sound system, but it isn't really loud and it has never been very early or late. Do you run into them outside ever where you can mention that you do hear it? "Hey, I hear you have a new sound setup!"
Sorry, Dana. That's really frustrating.
He very magnanimously responded that he heard what I was saying but clearly thinks that I hold him an apology because I was rude and dismissive. I have unfriended him because I really just don't see what else I can do.
Timelies all!
Pix, you did your best. He just doesn't want to listen.
Good riddance, Pix.
We returned from lunch, and the music has stopped. We're holding on to the hope that he just had it that loud while he was doing stuff around the house -- when we left, he was actually outside in his garage.
Hello Buffistas! I am back from a blissful week on the JoCo Cruise. We ate a lot of pretty good food and saw Mr. Coulton, Paul & Storm,Jim Boggia, Mike Phirman, Aimee Mann, Sammus, Tuneyards and Jill Sobule sing, the McIlroy Brothers, Ophira Eisenberg, Solomon Georgio and Aparna Narnchala do comedy, John Scalzi and Charlie Jane Anders do readings. It was so nice to to O.D. on culture, something we can't really do here in Michigan. There is lots of culture, but it's spread out over the year.
The big land concert in Puerto Rico was rained out before the main event, They Might Be Giants, could play. They managed to get a lot of the equipment inside over the next hour and then had a short ad hoc concert on the boat. Both J and I had gotten SOAKED in the rainstorm and were dried off and in bed in our cabin when the news of the concert came out. I wore my jammies and slippers ( nothing like going to an event on a boat) and we were right at the edge of the stage for the whole performance of our favorite band. It was great.
Also met many cool people, played some board games and played a Galaga game with my spouse at a table next to Wil Wheaton. We loved the cruise and have already signed up for next year.
