I was a huge fan of 90210 (and still rewatch favorite episodes on Hulu) (no shame), and I love the trash fire that is Riverdale, so I am SHOOK. Man.

And 52 is way, WAY too young.

Aw, man. No more wise and kindly Fred Andres. I yam sad now.

Hey Gud, I just wanted to say a couple of things.

1. You are always an inspiration to me. I really admire how hard you work for your family.

2. Would you want your children to marry a spouse like your wife?

Even if you think you deserve her treatment of you, I would like you to think about what it says to your children about what is acceptable behavior from a spouse.

You deserve all the love and affection, just like you give to your kids, even when they make mistakes.

I hope that helps, and I hope you keep talking about it here, especially if this is your only outlet.

so I am SHOOK. Man.

Holy shit. I literally just gasped. That's awful. Jesus.

Lest we forget, he was in the original Buffy movie with Kristy Swanson.

Lest we forget, he was in the original Buffy movie with Kristy Swanson.

Pike!

As far as I can tell, my office is either open or closed

Schroedinger's office?

Wow, I am kind of freaked out about Luke Perry.

Schroedinger's office?

Heh. No, I mean, there's none of this "use your judgement" bullshit I got at my last job. If the office is open, we come in and work. If it's not, we don't.

Not better today, boo. Nice chat with the advice nurse at Kaiser and a phone appointment at noon, meanwhile I'm off to Target to pick up the Gatorade and soups I bought online. What a handy feature

Booo! That sounds terrible.

This is long-away me, jumping into the conversation to echo what chrismg said to Gud.

Brain chemistry, ptsd, lifelong negative self-talk and patterned reactions to traumatic experiences are not things you can just think away. In fact, thinking in a vacuum just digs those neurological trenches deeper, making them even harder to climb out of.

I love Kate P's question asking how does it feel when you see the people here loving and supporting you. From a clinical perspective, I bet I know that answer and from a caring perspective, I'm going to bet that you don't.

Please heed everyone's recommendation to speak to someone unrelated to your situation. Call the hotline, check with your local mental health orgs about support groups, check for sliding scale services...generally faith-based, but also not pushy about it. (I started with a pastoral counseling service and was amazed how easily I fit in, despite not being part of that demographic.)

The issues that seem to take up all the space in your head, become automatically smaller [see me pulling a thought, like out of a pensive, and putting it in an upturned palm] when you allow them to be aired outside of yourself.

There are so MANY reasons to break this cycle, but the only one that really counts is that you want to.

I really can't believe the news about Luke Perry. Like Dana, when there seemed to be no follow-up reports, I didn't expect the situation was good, but I'm still kind of shocked.

And 52 is way, WAY too young.

Seconded, speaking as someone who turned that age today.