I have finesse! I have finesse coming out of my bottom!

Anya ,'Showtime'


Natter 76: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Foaminess  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


beekaytee - Mar 04, 2019 8:54:01 am PST #5597 of 30019
Compassionately intolerant

This is long-away me, jumping into the conversation to echo what chrismg said to Gud.

Brain chemistry, ptsd, lifelong negative self-talk and patterned reactions to traumatic experiences are not things you can just think away. In fact, thinking in a vacuum just digs those neurological trenches deeper, making them even harder to climb out of.

I love Kate P's question asking how does it feel when you see the people here loving and supporting you. From a clinical perspective, I bet I know that answer and from a caring perspective, I'm going to bet that you don't.

Please heed everyone's recommendation to speak to someone unrelated to your situation. Call the hotline, check with your local mental health orgs about support groups, check for sliding scale services...generally faith-based, but also not pushy about it. (I started with a pastoral counseling service and was amazed how easily I fit in, despite not being part of that demographic.)

The issues that seem to take up all the space in your head, become automatically smaller [see me pulling a thought, like out of a pensive, and putting it in an upturned palm] when you allow them to be aired outside of yourself.

There are so MANY reasons to break this cycle, but the only one that really counts is that you want to.


Topic!Cindy - Mar 04, 2019 8:54:16 am PST #5598 of 30019
What is even happening?

I really can't believe the news about Luke Perry. Like Dana, when there seemed to be no follow-up reports, I didn't expect the situation was good, but I'm still kind of shocked.

And 52 is way, WAY too young.

Seconded, speaking as someone who turned that age today.


Steph L. - Mar 04, 2019 8:57:41 am PST #5599 of 30019
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

Aw, Happy Birthday, Cindy! I hope you're celebrating properly.


Amy - Mar 04, 2019 8:58:30 am PST #5600 of 30019
Because books.

Oh, Cindy. Happy birthday, and much love.


Topic!Cindy - Mar 04, 2019 9:03:14 am PST #5601 of 30019
What is even happening?

Thanks, Tep. The family went out to dinner yesterday, because we were preparing for a big snow storm (which arrived in a bigger way than expected).

Now, I'm just sitting around contemplating my mortality and procrastinating on my work.

I am having trouble controlling my allergies over the Luke Perry news. What a shame.

Here's THR's most recent coverage. It's mostly one of those articles where the writer quotes co-stars tweets, like the called the people for comment, but there's some other information in it, too.


Topic!Cindy - Mar 04, 2019 9:03:27 am PST #5602 of 30019
What is even happening?

And thanks, Amy!


Laura - Mar 04, 2019 9:06:07 am PST #5603 of 30019
Our wings are not tired.

Cindy! Happy birthday! I hope you are being properly spoiled.


-t - Mar 04, 2019 9:06:53 am PST #5604 of 30019
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Oh no! Not Luke Perry. Damn.

Made it through Target, hooray!


-t - Mar 04, 2019 9:07:52 am PST #5605 of 30019
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Aw, Cindy, happy birthday!


Dana - Mar 04, 2019 9:16:17 am PST #5606 of 30019
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.

Now she wants to have a conversation about how overwhelmed we are with work. Dude, I am not medicated enough for this, and the longer we spend talking, the less we get done.