They need the old apartment cleaned out by Friday

Whoa, that is fast. Can you use insurance money to hire movers to pack you up?

You could, theoretically, divide up your household tasks so that none of them are your sole responsibility, they are all shared. I doubt that really happens much, but it's possible, right? Assuming there is someone to share them with, of course.

Did you write this article???

If I say yes, do I get paid?

I did a fair amount of research on care work last semester for a school paper, and it's amazing (and depressing) how repetitive the research is. Probably 90% of the studies I looked at could have been summarized as "tl;dr - men don't do shit."

So I talked to the apartment manager. Good news: They've got a one-bedroom reserved for me at one of the other apartment buildings they run! Bad news: They need the old apartment cleaned out by Friday, which is kind of a problem since 90% of my stuff is fine, modulo a little smokiness. I figured I'd have another week to get everything set up.

Whoa, that is good news/bad news! Do you have to go to your job in between? And/or will your insurance pay for movers to pack your stuff?

They also noted the mean household income was over $300K, so maybe it's assumed that Merry Maids cleans all the houses of all 1,700 women who answered the survey? I think I'll ask the authors why housecleaning isn't included.

Yeah, that's an interesting question. Outdoor maintenance isn't on there, either.

Did you write this article???

If I say yes, do I get paid?

You'd have to ask your co-authors about that, because we don't pay shit to our authors.

Probably 90% of the studies I looked at could have been summarized as "tl;dr - men don't do shit."

This is a problem with Tim's RA. It affects mostly his hands/wrists, and then he has BAD osteoarthritis in his right elbow. He was never great at housecleaning before, but a lot of it causes him actual pain now. And that's legit. But I cannot do it all. I even mow the goddamn lawn from like April through the end of October because the grass will not stop growing in September like it should.

The answer is to hire cleaners, but our house is so cluttered that it feels like cleaners couldn't do much. But maybe not. Shit, even if we had a cleaner once a month, I could stay on top of stuff more easily.

To be fair, he handles all the bills/finances, grocery shops [with me], and cleans the litterbox every day. It's not like he does nothing. And also, he's been in school 2 nights a week until 9:30 p.m. since November, and he has homework, so I geniunely don't expect him to bust ass at housework on top of all of that. Picking up the slack has just really gotten to me, is all.

This reminds me of a question I have! People who pay other people to clean their house, how often do they come, and what do you do in between?

Chris remind me where you are.

I have to literally invite people to come over so I'll clean. I keep the house picked up a little bit obsessively (clutter makes me really anxious), but actual cleaning I can let slide until I have to elbow dust bunnies out of the way. And I'm still working on how to motivate myself to those deep-cleaning things you should do once or twice a year.

Howwwwwww is today not over yet.

I normally have someone come once a month, to clean, but the past few months since I broke my ankle have someone twice a month. Generally I'd say I "tidy" more than "clean" between times? I mean, I do dishes or take out the trash, and I'll swipe up a spill on the counter, but I don't dust or vacuum or clean the toilet or bath between. Probably I'm filthy but once a month is also probably more than I'd do it otherwise, so... (note that I have neither kids nor pets, so that makes it easier)

San Antonio, why?