GUD YOU ARE AN AWESOME PERSON AND YOU DON'T DESERVE THIS

OK, I thought you had fallen on it, but I think I misread your post. I hope it feels better tomorrow and that you family treats you with a little more care and compassion.

Gud, do me a favor: you spend a lot of time giving your wife the benefit of the doubt. Can you give yourself the benefit of the doubt? Why is it when she gets angry it's justified, but when you make a mistake it's not forgivable?

That's not right, not fair, and shows a real imbalance in your own thinking.

Gud, you should blame your wife for the weather just to balance things out.

Gud you are under a lot of stress! You hurt your arm, you lost a job, you found a job, you have all these deadlines and responsibilities and you don't get help from your spouse.

Please give yourself the same leeway you give your wife.

I'm not a person prone to anger, but Gud's wife makes me angry.

Compassion and concern are the appropriate response when your spouse is hurt!!!!! Not anger, ever.

I hope that the recovery is quick, and even more I hope you figure out that you deserve an abundance of love and support in your life, and never to be the subject of anger.

What amych and David said. Gud you don't deserve this and she is not under any stress that justifies it.

ION, am still alive and probably being discharged soon. They are considering the blood clots to be at the lower risk end, and hopefully manageable with medication. I've also got really low iron levels and a red blood cell count low enough that they debated a transfusion, but since it's stsyed stable and all my vitals have been strong throughout that is also in the serious bit probably not scary list. So all in all pretty good news.

Also I cannnot express how thankful I am to be one of the lucky ones with good insurance. I'm fortunate enough to have made the choice to have a manageable deductible and OOP max and so one thing I have not had to do is internally panic every time one more nurse shows up with one more test. I've had X-rays, ekgs, ultrasounds, CTs and blood tests. I shudder to imagine what this would be costing.

Thinking you deserve abuse is one of the saddest things I can think of. Especially from your spouse. It's the foundation, the very building blocks of a marriage that YOU DO NOT ABUSE YOUR SPOUSE.

There is nothing -- NOTHING -- you can do to "deserve" abuse from your spouse.

I really really hope she doesn't emotionally abuse your children this way. (I mean, my parents were emotionally -- and in the case of my dad, physically -- abusive to each other, and they were also so abusive to my brother and to me that each of our therapists [independent of each other] have reacted to certain stories of our childhood with the very unprofessional statements of "Your parents are FUCKED UP" and "Christ, not this asshole again.") I fervently hope that she reserves all her abuse just for you. But I honestly can't imagine that that's the case. She should be out of your lives and you and your children should see a good therapist. All 3 of you deserve so much better.

Good news on the Brenda front! I am relieved to learn this.

Gudwife should shut her yap and go earn health insurance that is good enough for her.

Yay Brenda, I am glad to hear you are alive, even if it sounds like you're in need of some cosseting. Do they know WHY you are clotted and depleted? That seems important. Also, my condolences if you now have to inject yourself with blood thinner for weeks. I hated that part.

I have all these things I'd like to accomplish today, but I also feel like being lazy. I perhaps should eat something more than a cup of coffee (...it had lots of half and half in it?)