Laura: Tracked down my aunt

Awesome! I will post some pictures when I am there and take you back.

Nice, aurelia!

Negative~ma for Mac.

but the dude said I did phenomenal

Because you're really good at what you do.

'ma for Mac!

Today went like an episode of Hoarders. My sister did everything in her power to interfere with the haul Junk Out of The Yard project requested by Park Management. She was adamant that her second car not be moved out of the way. (We couldn't understand why). I have keys so I drove it across the lane, which the workers appreciated. Then she sat on the steps in her nightgown and bald chemo head ordering the guys to take this, that and the other thing back into the yard, look for her garden tools and bicycle parts. She screamed THAT STAYS! at Sue for saying a particular piece of rubble could go on the truck. I told her not to talk to Sue like that. Then she yelled at me about how I wouldn't even change my own sister's sheets. She hung around trying to keep her stuff but she got tired, started crying and told the guys to take it all and went back to bed. They were super nice and put in extra effort to pack the truck very full to avoid a second trip. So that part was not so bad.

It cost Sue $740.00. My sister still has a rented storage unit, a two story garden shed, the master bedroom, the biggest room, the living room, the kitchen and her vehicles crammed full of stuff. You'd think that would be enough to make her happy, but no. She has to hate me because she's too dependent on her roommate to really get her grudge on at home.

I am very tired of bullshit, drama and yelling, and DH is tired of hearing about it.

Exactly like an episode of Hoarders, Katerina -- hugs. Made worse, I'm sure, by the actual physical sickness and mental distress of chemo/cancer, so she's going to fall back on her flawed defense mechanisms, i.e. blaming you for all this, somehow. Captain Logic is not steering the tugboat...

I'm sorry you are dealing with that on top of everything else in 2020 .

A friend of mom's has covid. Her friend P has a bunch of respiratory problems and has said if she got covid she assumed she woul die. So she's been careful and got her will and all of that in place . But she visited her daughter in law , who works at a day care center and who was unknowingly sick with covid at the time.

The good news to this is P seems to have a very very mild case with real breathing issues or fever. I'm grateful she's doing well for her sake but also so mom doesn't have to worry about losing another friend (her best friend of nearly 40 years died last year).

It also reinforced that I've been doing the right thing keeping distance from mom even though it's hard when I see so many people who are just acting line things are fine but also don't seem to be getting sick.

And in other medical news M has been dealing with the VA more for health care. They switched the anti depressant he was on and the new one made him sick so they are changing again....not sure to what. But they are also setting up weekly telehealth appointments for some kind of pain management monitoring or help. I'm vauge because he didn't seem to be exactly sure. He doesn't seem happy about more interactions with doctors but is going to do this. And whoever he talked to at the VA encouraged him to reapply for Social security disability. He did prev and was denied and didn't re apply. So he is thinking about that.

I think his brother and SIL have been encouraging him to go to the VA and see if they can re evaluate his disability rating with them...I don't know what that entails or if he will do it but I'm glad they are encouraging him.

Sorry Katerina, good luck.

I hope things work out well for P and M, askye.

I heard from technical screen guy last night and they want to do the full 2 hour interview tomorrow morning. It's over Zoom and I was told to have a development environment ready so it looks like it will involve doing some coding.

I'm sorry, Katerina. My sister is a hoarder, but we basically ignore it. I did get her place cleaned up once, but it has reverted. I may try again because her grandson isn't allowed by his parents to go to her house and I know she would like to see him more. It is so hard.

Sending ~ma, Gud! Nice that you have the skills to be in demand.

Also, oh no! The Rock, and his family are Covid positive.

I think I was approaching hoarder status - I'd lived the same apartment for 34 years and I don't think I ever got rid of anything. Boxes (and boxes) of books. Antique china and glassware. Stacks of books. Closets stuffed with clothing. Shoes I can't wear any more.

Then I had to move. Donated several hundred books (enough that I twice filled the back of the vehicle the local place picked up). Donated ... I lost count of how many bags of clothing, household goods, shoes, etc., a local place picked up (I don't have a car, but I found a place that would send a truck - they'd schedule a day, notify you ahead of a two-hour window, the truck driver would call about 15 minutes before arriving and haul everything to the truck). The place would sell the stuff and use the funds to provide healthcare to people without insurance. The books went to a place (that would only pick up books if you had at least 100 ... he he he ... do I count as an overachiever here?) that sells second-hand books, DVDs, CDs and uses the money to fund literacy programs.

I ended up calling the "got junk" people who filled half a truck with boxes of books I hadn't had a chance to sort through, plus a desk that no one wanted and an old room-sized rug even I didn't want any more.

That's hard, Katerina. Chemo did a number on my mom's thought processes at times, and it was very difficult to deal with. I hope your sister will get to a recovery place where she can interact with her surroundings and you in a healthier way.

Sending ~ma, Gud! Nice that you have the skills to be in demand.

Yeah, I feel really lucky and sometimes kinda guilty.