Yep, I would decline and not mention it.
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msbelle - Jul 12, 2020 8:59:37 am PDT #23480 of 30019
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
Jesse - Jul 12, 2020 9:05:03 am PDT #23481 of 30019
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
I wonder about just saying that your friend is already your rep? But also just ignore it and don't worry about it.
Zenkitty - Jul 12, 2020 9:18:49 am PDT #23482 of 30019
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
There are seven people in the company. My boss is the CEO and functions as HR.
Ignoring the general invite was one thing, but this was a direct message. She probably doesn't mean it to seem coercive but it does.
Fuck this. I'm going to message her back and say I can't attend, and hopefully she'll get the fucking hint. I don't need this stress. If she turns into a bitch because I didn't buy her Norwex crap, then she's not the person I thought she was, and I'll go from there.
Sheryl - Jul 12, 2020 9:31:43 am PDT #23483 of 30019
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"
Timelies all!
Gary set up a Zoom session and invited some of Mr. S's former classmates plus some of our friends with kids near his age. A couple of the classmates showed up for a few minutes. Well, we tried.
erin_obscure - Jul 12, 2020 9:33:17 am PDT #23484 of 30019
Occasionally I’m callous and strange
That's an awful situation for a boss to put you in! Super unethical. Not that most people would feel comfortable pointing that out to said boss. I think a "sorry can't make it" is more than acceptable.
Laura - Jul 12, 2020 9:35:29 am PDT #23485 of 30019
Our wings are not tired.
I think people that do these expect a significant percentage of invitees to beg off or ignore. A couple of my nieces and several friends do them and I ignore them regularly without any of them caring at all.
Dana - Jul 12, 2020 9:38:15 am PDT #23486 of 30019
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
Ask a Manager would definitely agree that your boss shouldn't do that, because she has authority over you, so it's kind of coercion.
-t - Jul 12, 2020 11:00:02 am PDT #23487 of 30019
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Ugh, Zen, I hope your boss backs off and continues to be a good boss otherwise.
Sorry about the cats being unpleasant, Laura.
Jesse - Jul 12, 2020 12:23:09 pm PDT #23488 of 30019
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
That's an awful situation for a boss to put you in! Super unethical. Not that most people would feel comfortable pointing that out to said boss. I think a "sorry can't make it" is more than acceptable.
Agreed!!
Topic!Cindy - Jul 12, 2020 4:43:11 pm PDT #23489 of 30019
What is even happening?
I need advice? My boss has sent me a FB invite to her virtual Norwex party tonight. "Looking forward to seeing you!" I didn't respond to the initial invite, and I'm feeling pressured by this. It's a whole friends-circle thing. The coworker who got me hired at this company, and his wife, have been game-night friends with me for years - not close friends but friendly acquaintances. His wife is a Norwex rep and I've bought Norwex stuff from her a few times. My boss is friends with them both, and Coworker's Wife got Boss into becoming a Norwex rep. I saw danger when I got the invite to Boss's virtual party and did not respond, hoping that would send the message that I don't want to be involved. I don't have the money to spend on stuff I don't need, and I don't want to mix either casual friendship or profit-making into my relationship with my boss. And my boss is really nice and super supportive, I like her, but I don't think this is appropriate and I'm not comfortable with the idea of buying stuff from my boss. Not to mention, this job - which I like - pays me about the minimum I can live on, I don't feeling like I have to give some of that money back to my boss or risk souring our working relationship.
What do I do? How do I respond to this?
Your boss shouldn't have done this.
WTF is a virtual party? Is it a Zoom meeting? Can you have "internet trouble" a few minutes in?