Urgh. Thanks for the info, Brenda. There's always the NY side...I hear it's not as nice, but in a pinch...

My Canadian next door neighbors are staying here in Florida indefinitely rather than planning a return home for summer because pretty much everything is still closed for them at home.

Oh, as usual, dear.

Does anyone have any experience of the US side of the falls? Other than my friends in PA choosing to take me to the Canadian side instead and, uh, Wonderfalls, I know nothing about it.

If the boat trips are running, (and you’d definitely want to do them if you can) then it could still be worth a visit.

Here’s a comparison that might be helpful. [link]

But for coming a long distance it seems like waiting might be just as well.

Very cool. Thanks, Brenda!

So, I'm turning 50 in June.

I'm turning 50 on Friday. Last year during my covid birthday party we talked big plans about how next year when I turn 50 it will be a big deal and a big party and all of that.

looks around at country

Yeah.

I fear I will fall into a single-childless-nobody-loves-me hole of DOOM depression.

Ugh. I hear you on that I’ve definitely been there in the past (though as I told my doctor the other day I’ve been very impressed at the heavy lifting my antidepressant has been doing in this pandemic, I’ve not had this feeling nearly as much as I’d expect otherwise!)

I hear you ND. My big 50 vacation is on indefinite hold.

There was a ... TikTok, I think ... of a young woman reading her 2020 New Year's plans. She read them and commented on how each went - get a new job that pays more (was laid off), travel more and so on. It was hard to tell if she was laughing or crying at them.

I fear I will fall into a single-childless-nobody-loves-me hole of DOOM depression.

Ugh. I hear you on that I’ve definitely been there in the past (though as I told my doctor the other day I’ve been very impressed at the heavy lifting my antidepressant has been doing in this pandemic, I’ve not had this feeling nearly as much as I’d expect otherwise!)

I'm still unmedicated - my depression is mild enough (and sporadic enough) that I've just been dealing. To be SUPER-cliched, I'm also PMSing this week, I think (that's also pretty sporadic these days), and I've always been Depression rather than Rage with PMS. Unlike you, I'm way introverted, so the pandemic hasn't been a trial to me in that way. I just think the milestone-ness of a birthday year that ends in zero will be a PROBLEM if I don't do something to make it an OCCASION. I was largely OK with the low-key (no-key?) 49, but 50? I foresee it being an issue.

I also tend not to ask for help. I forget how much I live in my own head and forget to reach out. So, yay me for being proactive this year? And yay you guys for trying to help!

It was hard to tell if she was laughing or crying at them.

I identify with this feel.