Actually not needing validation right now, but thank you.

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sj - Dec 19, 2020 11:11:25 am PST #7487 of 8185
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Yeah, exactly Trudy. I’m especially thinking of some of the parents at drop off whose masks are below their noses.


Trudy Booth - Dec 19, 2020 1:58:44 pm PST #7488 of 8185
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart

THOSE PEOPLE MAKE ME CRAZY


meara - Dec 19, 2020 5:03:02 pm PST #7489 of 8185

Yikes, Volans. That’s so hard. I remember there was a really good article in the WaPo I think about a woman and her 12 or 13 year old being radicalized to white supremacism/misogynistic stuff on the internet. And I think about my brother, who definitely is more radicalized than he’d ever have been without the internet (he’s a total troll, too). So hard.


Topic!Cindy - Dec 19, 2020 7:48:09 pm PST #7490 of 8185
What is even happening?

Surely you can trust almost all of them... but it only takes one.

I think Trudy nailed it, sj.


Volans - Dec 20, 2020 7:17:34 pm PST #7491 of 8185
move out and draw fire

I just learned that anxiety/depression count as disabilities for employers who need to have 9% of their workforce be people with disabilities to comply with hiring rules.

As someone with depression, I'm not sure how I feel about this...sometimes it can be disabling, but not always. What accommodations does an employer put in place for it? I don't feel like it's equivalent to being blind or deaf or having a mobility mismatch. OTOH I know depressed people can be off-putting, use a lot of leave, etc.

Anyway, I was surprised.

Especially since treatment for depression isn't covered under many employer health plans.


Vortex - Dec 20, 2020 8:04:00 pm PST #7492 of 8185
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

Anxiety/depression can be a disabling condition, but plenty of people have it in various incarnations and are not disabled by it. Employers can accommodate by adjusting schedules, providing equipment (e.g. special lights for SAD), intermittent leave options, etc. t


Dana - Dec 20, 2020 9:00:52 pm PST #7493 of 8185
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."

Volans, I marked myself as disabled for my new job, more for migraines than my depression. But it was definitely weird, taking that step.


meara - Dec 20, 2020 9:49:19 pm PST #7494 of 8185

Yeah I definitely feel like marking either of those things would just be a tick box because an employer wouldn’t do jack to make things easier or better? Then again, working from home for so long I’m pretty privileged—even the months where I have multiple migraines a week, I can usually take a pill and nap for a bit and get back to work, which would be harder with real clothes and a commute and a boss looking at me.


Fred Pete - Dec 21, 2020 6:06:38 am PST #7495 of 8185
Ann, that's a ferret.

My depression has usually been moderate enough that I can go to work and fake it 'til I make it. The only time it really affected my job was when I had my nervous breakdown in 2017.

I was in the process of requesting accommodation for my CIDP when everything shut down in March. Since I was mostly asking to be allowed to telecommute 80% of the time, there seemed to be no need to pursue as long as everyone was being asked/allowed to telecommute 100% of the time. And with retirement coming up in 10 days, the whole thing is moot. Last week, I told HR that I wasn't going to pursue further.


Jessica - Dec 21, 2020 6:22:46 am PST #7496 of 8185
If I want to become a cloud of bats, does each bat need a separate vaccination?

He is getting exposed to a lot of radicalization attempts so we constantly have to fight against him parroting MAGA or white supremacist BS that he doesn't recognize as such.

I worry about this so much with D. He mostly follows YouTube channels that review video games, which seems like it should be harmless enough except that genre of channel is almost entirely white American men with too much time on their hands and nobody to challenge their opinions. And the content of the ads is targeted to match (even ad blockers don't filter out the embedded ones), and YIKES.