Working from home for almost 7 years now has ruined me on the whole concept of wearing a bra. I deeply resent every time I have to put one on. And now that Tim's nephew is overhauling our backyard for us, I feel obligated to wear a bra when he's over here, and it drive me bonkers.

Working from home for almost 7 years now has ruined me on the whole concept of wearing a bra.

Bras are not really optional for me; even now that I'm not especially busty, I'm incredibly droopy, which ruins the line of pretty much every item of clothing I actually like and feel good and cute in. My girls require some infrastructure.

JZ, start here [link]

Best guide, no bra required!

oh god.. matthew's mom asks "how would you feel if I brought home a kitten or two"

Me: ?!?!?! We have 3 cats that barely get along and we can barely keep up with that and we want.. more?

She wants outdoor cats to kill the snakes and rodents that are infesting.. something.. and something like that. I pointed out we can't just bring home a kitten (from his sisters) and put them outside, they need- shots, they need to stay in side for a bit to acclimate, and they need to get spayed/neutered. And they need shelter. And Penny goes outside so they need to get used to Penny.

Plus there are like 3 tom cats roaming around.

I told her if we rehomed Scrappy to an only cat home then another cat makes sense.

she's also asked me about half a dozen times when I'm going to start roasing the chicken for dinner.. not yet, it's for evening meal and like it's not evening. It doesn't take all day to cook a chicken.

Could you start feeding and t/n/r a tomcat or two and have them be outside cats?

I think they technically belong to the neighbors, but I suppose we could start feeding them.

The other neighbor's bunny has escaped into our yard again and seems to be hiding out in the shed. So far her owner (who wasn't her original owner but took her in from a neice or someone) hasn't been too desperate to find her. I'm trying to figure out if it's ok to get the bunny to a rescue.Matthew is trying to get his sister to bring over a live animal trap so we can catch the bunny easier. I'm not sure how we are going to trick her into going into the trap since she isn't interested in anything but grass to eat.

Will a bunny rescue come and get the bunny? Sounds like the neighbor wouldn't mind too much if the bunny mysteriously disappeared. "Sorry, it was in our yard and then it was just gone, don't know where it went..."

Well the bunny is still..outside doing things. The bunny rescue won't come and catch it, we have to catch it. Or someone does.

And I'm going to be honest it was hard enough wrangling everyone to get them to catch the rabbit the first time. I'm not really sure I want to deal with that again. Plus I can really only help with bunny wrangling on my day off and I've been trying to get other stuff done.

I feel slightly bad for not doing more to get the bunny to a rescue but on the other hand I have other stuff. Like trying to get the new ac window unit installed Shouldn't take time but it means getting help and doing it when it's not raining and that's.. not been easy to coordinate.

Paying Tim's nephew to overhaul our backyard is worth every penny. (Largely because Tim and I are old and decrepit and would not be able to pull ivy and cut down The Honeysuckle Bush That Ate Northside.) When it's all finished, we're getting some comfy lawn-furniture chairs and a fire pit (because it is every Beckmeyer's birthright to have a fire in their backyard [lest we forget, we did in fact have a fire pit at our wedding reception, courtesy of his brother]). And I'm low-key obsessed right now with picking out a good hammock with a frame (I don't want to attach it to a tree) that has appropriate Big Fat Panda weight limit.

Even before the coronavirus, we weren't going to be able to take a vacation this year, because Tim used all his vacation time on his luxurious stay in the cardiac ICU, and then recuperating at home. So might as well turn our hellscape of a backyard (it was so bad that I'm ashamed to share "before" pictures) into a nice place to while away the summer.

That sounds like a solid project, Teppy, and pretty rewarding too!