Yes askye, getting ahead of it is a good plan.
Mal: That's not what I saw. You like to tell me what really happened? Book: I surely would. And maybe someday I will.
'Safe'
Spike's Bitches 49: As usual, I'm here to help you, and I... are you naked under there?
Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Laura - Nov 21, 2019 4:19:20 am PST #6674 of 8260
Our wings are not tired.
askye - Nov 21, 2019 5:54:32 am PST #6675 of 8260
Thrive to spite them
Thanks Laura. I was so tired when I wrote that I didn't remember it. I found some ear protection muffs that, according to the reviews, do a good job of blocking out voices. Which will help at home and I may even take them to work to use on my breaks next weekend.
Dana - Nov 24, 2019 4:13:43 pm PST #6676 of 8260
I haven't trusted science since I saw the film "Flubber."
I have to figure out how to find a therapist here, and I'm dreading it.
amyparker - Nov 24, 2019 4:29:17 pm PST #6677 of 8260
You've got friends to have good times with. When you need to share the trauma of a badly-written book with someone, that's when you go to family.
Dana, that's hard. Anyone local you'd feel comfortable asking for a recommendation?
Dana - Nov 24, 2019 4:33:34 pm PST #6678 of 8260
I haven't trusted science since I saw the film "Flubber."
Nope. Only family. Who I love and appreciate, but we do not have those discussions.
Like, I found someone who gets good reviews, and I have to decide how worried to be that she offers "Christian counseling" upon request. I mean, this is Texas.
Steph L. - Nov 24, 2019 4:55:40 pm PST #6679 of 8260
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
Dana, you might already know this, but Psychology Today has a directory of therapists: [link] It's a good place to start.
Dana - Nov 24, 2019 5:25:09 pm PST #6680 of 8260
I haven't trusted science since I saw the film "Flubber."
Okay, I realize I cannot make a decision solely on this basis, but one of the people listed there has her dog in the office for sessions.
Steph L. - Nov 24, 2019 5:26:35 pm PST #6681 of 8260
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
I...might have made a decision solely on that basis, if I hadn't found my therapist.
billytea - Nov 24, 2019 5:36:31 pm PST #6682 of 8260
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.
My therapist in Philly had a dog in the office. (Portuguese water dog, same breed that the Obamas got.) It was a very chill doggo, and worked as a therapy dog in other settings too.
I'd regard having a dog as a plus - wouldn't outweigh other factors, but still a positive. Thought occurs to me that asking them why they decided to have a dog in the office might tell you something about therapist's approach to therapy too.
Dana - Nov 24, 2019 5:40:59 pm PST #6683 of 8260
I haven't trusted science since I saw the film "Flubber."
She says the dog often greets people at the door and is known for his calm demeanor and his love of treats. I don't know if it's explicitly a therapy dog in other settings, but it's definitely there for comfort.