A man walks down the street in that hat, people know he's not afraid of anything.

Wash ,'The Message'


Spike's Bitches 49: As usual, I'm here to help you, and I... are you naked under there?

Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Hil R. - Jun 26, 2018 8:57:11 pm PDT #4064 of 8234
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

My sister and I just arrived in Seattle on our epic (or maybe not quite epic) Pacific NW road trip. She went out to take a walk a little while ago, and came back and reported, "This entire city is smoking pot."


meara - Jun 27, 2018 7:51:18 am PDT #4065 of 8234

Welcome to seattle! And yes it does often smell that everyone is busy smoking up


P.M. Marc - Jun 27, 2018 12:22:04 pm PDT #4066 of 8234
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear

We're skunky, yeah!


Hil R. - Jun 27, 2018 6:05:44 pm PDT #4067 of 8234
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

I just posted about possible Seattle meet-up plans in F2F.


Dana - Jun 29, 2018 8:37:07 am PDT #4068 of 8234
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.

I've now had two doctors tell me that I'm getting to the age where I shouldn't be on the pill, due to risks of heart attack, stroke, and blood clots. Unfortunately, I think that I'm getting headaches before my period each month, tied to hormones.

The other option for hormonal birth control is the IUD, but I'm a little leery. I know some of you have had painful procedures. Can anyone talk about it, either successful or unsuccessful?


Nora Deirdre - Jun 29, 2018 9:01:32 am PDT #4069 of 8234
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)

The Nuva Ring wouldn't work? I use that and it's awesome. Or a vasectomy? Damn, I gotta get Tom to Planned Parenthood for one.


Steph L. - Jun 29, 2018 9:03:10 am PDT #4070 of 8234
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

If you get the Mirena IUD placed (I always want to say "installed") when you're at the tail end of your period, it shouldn't be terrible, because your cervix is softer during that part of your cycle. That said, I would take ibuprofen and/or Tylenol before you go.

When my first Mirena expired after 5 years and I had a second one placed, that was pretty painful, and my theoretical third Mirena (5 years after #2) didn't happen because apparently my cervix is made of steel and the OB/GYN could not get the IUD placed. (I think that particular experience makes me an extreme outlier, though. Don't place a whole lot of weight on that one.)

I loved my IUDs, even with the pain of getting the second one placed, partly because I stopped getting a period, which was glorious. Plus it's pretty foolproof birth control. (After the failure of placing IUD #3, Tim just got snipped. It was really the only other foolproof option we were comfortable with.)


Dana - Jun 29, 2018 9:07:56 am PDT #4071 of 8234
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.

Husband got a vasectomy years ago, so the only consideration is how the hormones would affect my headaches. The actual effectiveness doesn't really matter.

I like the sound of the implant, but it doesn't have estrogen, which may or may not help or hurt the headaches. It's fucking complicated, and my head is stupid.


Nora Deirdre - Jun 29, 2018 9:18:23 am PDT #4072 of 8234
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)

I feel like I have eaten all the fattening foods for a while, and should probably eat celery for the next four days.

Shit, I missed that part, sorry. But I still wonder about the Nuva ring?


Jessica - Jun 29, 2018 9:21:46 am PDT #4073 of 8234
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset

I loved my IUD (Mirena) while I had it. No issues with insertion, but I'd had two kids by then and my understanding is it's easier with a used cervix.