meara, I've found some primary care docs won't prescribe ADs or other mental health drugs beyond a certain point. Point being, if your "cocktail" gets more complicated, she might want you to see a psychiatrist to prescribe it, presumably because they know more about those specific drugs.

Dana, your doctor sounds awful. What on earth is the harm in listening to a patient and working with them to make them more comfortable?

Steph, stomach pain ~ma. Or stomach pain solution, which would be better!

meara, I've found some primary care docs won't prescribe ADs or other mental health drugs beyond a certain point. Point being, if your "cocktail" gets more complicated, she might want you to see a psychiatrist to prescribe it, presumably because they know more about those specific drugs.

Yep. I'm on a delicate balance of meds (pain management, sleep issues, crazybrain, anxiety), and my PCP handed all of that over to my psych.

Dana, I literally said "Oh, no. FUCK no!" on reading your whitefont. I hope you find a better gyn, fast.

meara, what Amy said. I've also had a GP bump me to a psych when I needed to get fancy with the meds.

Thanks for the sanity check. I told him it wasn't possible.

Be careful making judgement calls about how your employees spend their money. Your relationship with them is to exchange a quantity of money for a quantity of work. How they spend that money is completely up to them.

Hey look, it turns out that "separating yourself from the business" is yet another one of those things that is way harder in practice than in theory! Blah.

The doctor thinks it might be my gall bladder, and I have to have more imaging done. If I had planned better, maybe I could have had it done when I had my echocardiogram.

Come on, body! Be healthier!

I have bolloxed up another bid. There were unforeseens, but now I have to contact the client and propose courses of action, and my brain is just a screaming negative voice that I can't do this.

What you do seems to me like it would be fraught with unforeseens. Maybe you can try to incorporate that more into both your thinking and your quotes? Because you can't know what you can't know. The conversations in particular might be less terrible to engage in if you can set them up as part of the process, not an error.

Also your negative brain voice should go suck it. Even if you made a mistake.

Now the dryer in the basement isn't working. And I'm too nervous to call the landlord about it. (Plus, all my decent clothes are wet.) I've got all my clothes hang-drying around my apartment now.

t waves Hugs and ~ma all around. I've been reading along but just exhausted and brain dead.

Hey look, it turns out that "separating yourself from the business" is yet another one of those things that is way harder in practice than in theory! Blah.

It definitely is. I care a lot about my employees and I'm also friends with them, it's a very tricky balance when this happens, but bright clear lines about what is, and is not, my business makes those things easier to navigate.

Hey look, it turns out that "separating yourself from the business" is yet another one of those things that is way harder in practice than in theory! Blah.

It definitely is. I care a lot about my employees and I'm also friends with them, it's a very tricky balance when this happens, but bright clear lines about what is, and is not, my business makes those things easier to navigate.

Dicey.

A some of my old clients have become friends (after the ethically mandated separation period), which I just love. However, when struggle pops up in their lives, I have to be careful to not take on the care taker role.

Having clear language around work versus friend roles can be helpful. "Say. This is a boss moment, so I'm going to put that hat on now."

Some employees can't navigate the distinction but, for the ones that are able, it shouldn't be too hard.

I hired a friend at the pet care company and that worked well. I tried to hire another one, and she was smart enough to say it would be uncomfortable for her. Both of them were wise!

smonster - it is not unreasonable for him to ask, but it is also not unreasonable for you to say no. He may have been planning on spending his last check on clothes, but it's more convenient for mom to take him earlier.

Sorry Dana. Strike one is none of her goddamned business. Unless youre selling them on the street or a danger to your health, she needs to listen to her patient

Strike two is a red flag. I don't do doctors who don't listen to me. No one should.

I agree with meara that you should write a letter. She's not going to change if she doesn't know that there's a problem. Chances are she won't (given the whole "not listening" thing), but give it a shot. Plus, I find I often stop being mad about shit once I write the letter. OTOH, sometimes writing it all down pisses me off more, but YRMV.