(I really want to ask this aunt if *her* kids know how many pairs of pants she owns, and if they don't, why she's so tolerant of her kids' "irresponsible" behavior.)

Well, in your shoes I might wait until the package from LL Bean arrives, then go to the woman's children and say, "So how many pairs of pants does your mother own that fit her and are not stained? I'm asking this because I don't want you suprised when when you are called to account for them."

t /not helping.

I mean, to give this aunt a tiny benefit of the doubt, it's 99% probable that she asked Jack why he didn't have more clothes in his room* and 110% probable that he answered "Well...I don't know. They should be there!" rather than saying "I only own 2 pairs of pants and both are here." His thought processes are no longer logical or linear, so it's likely that whatever he answered ended up making this aunt think that all 3 sons are neglectful.**

*(Though why she was looking in his dresser drawers is beyond me. SUPER nosy.)

**(Though, again, that could have been cleared up with one phone call and some simple questions, instead of shitposting.)

Ugh, Tep, I'm sorry. Kinda on trend of your FiL to have such a minimalist wardrobe, though. If only he'd been taking pictures of his empty closet and posting to Instagram!

Yeah! Tell that PITA that it's a capsule wardrobe.

Ha! Maybe he'll start a trend at the assisted living community!

My dad has about six of the same favorite shirt in different colors. I know this because he tells me about it with some frequency. Not because I'm monitoring his wardrobe.

Even if you know what he has though - I can look around and see there are multiple pairs of pants. I can't look and say how many of those a particular stubborn old man is refusing to wear. That's the kind of critical detail that only comes out under circumstances like this.

I'm mostly just angry that the first assumption this aunt jumped to was that the boys are being neglectful. It beggars belief that anyone who has seen how they have taken care of him (at the expense of their free time and energy and, sometimes, health) for the past 7 years so that he could continue to remain in his home -- and this aunt HAS seen that -- could EVER call them neglectful. She's known them their whole lives, and I cannot believe she would think they would suddenly stop taking care of their father once he was in a nursing facility. Ridiculous. I'm not feeling very kind towards her right now.

I'm staying at my dad's this week and I honestly would never have thought to check out his wardrobe. I'm just flabbergasted at the gall of his sister. I'm sorry Tim and siblings are having to deal with that ON TOP of everything else.

I'm in my old office today, and boy howdy has it changed. We used to have 3 full floors, now we have one. And from my wanderings it feels like a ghost town. There are a scant few faces that I recognize.

But the fact that she shitposted about it to everyone means you can include everyone when you reply, sweetly thanking her for checking with the family about his wardrobe and calmly explaining. She'll look bad and you won't, and she'll know it. Some people just like to get mad and start shit. It's fun when they're the ones who end up looking bad.

Yeah, nope. Right there with you on Aunt's miserable assumptions.

(As an aside, I also am eyebrow raising the notion that two pairs of pants is an issue in itself. Better to have more, sure, but if they were dirty or falling apart that would have become apparent precisely because the boys are very involved. So outside of frequent laundry I'm not sure what she's on about anyway. )