I'm mostly just angry that the first assumption this aunt jumped to was that the boys are being neglectful. It beggars belief that anyone who has seen how they have taken care of him (at the expense of their free time and energy and, sometimes, health) for the past 7 years so that he could continue to remain in his home -- and this aunt HAS seen that -- could EVER call them neglectful. She's known them their whole lives, and I cannot believe she would think they would suddenly stop taking care of their father once he was in a nursing facility. Ridiculous. I'm not feeling very kind towards her right now.

I'm staying at my dad's this week and I honestly would never have thought to check out his wardrobe. I'm just flabbergasted at the gall of his sister. I'm sorry Tim and siblings are having to deal with that ON TOP of everything else.

I'm in my old office today, and boy howdy has it changed. We used to have 3 full floors, now we have one. And from my wanderings it feels like a ghost town. There are a scant few faces that I recognize.

But the fact that she shitposted about it to everyone means you can include everyone when you reply, sweetly thanking her for checking with the family about his wardrobe and calmly explaining. She'll look bad and you won't, and she'll know it. Some people just like to get mad and start shit. It's fun when they're the ones who end up looking bad.

Yeah, nope. Right there with you on Aunt's miserable assumptions.

(As an aside, I also am eyebrow raising the notion that two pairs of pants is an issue in itself. Better to have more, sure, but if they were dirty or falling apart that would have become apparent precisely because the boys are very involved. So outside of frequent laundry I'm not sure what she's on about anyway. )

The only big rift in my mom's family came over an argument between her and her older brother's wife when my grandmother was in the hospital after having strokes, about how to best care for her. Pro tip: don't suggest it would be less trouble to ship an elderly relative off to a nursing home when you're not the one she lives with and said relative once provided care to you during your lengthy psychiatric difficulties.

Mom has a slow burn temper that goes off like Krakatoa on the rare occasions that she loses control of it; my aunt was lucky she didn't exit that hospital room via the third floor window.

My SiL wrote a post for the CaringBridge site (that the whole extended family can and does access) saying that she was going to clarify the "clothing situation" after "inquiries were made about missing clothing." And then she laid it all out, sweet as pie. (I honestly think she was being genuine, where as I would have been snarky as hell. And that is the reason why I opted to not be given admin privileges on that CaringBridge page.)

Pro tip: don't suggest it would be less trouble to ship an elderly relative off to a nursing home when you're not the one she lives with and said relative once provided care to you during your lengthy psychiatric difficulties.

Jack is the inverse of that situation. Every one of his siblings keeps saying "We have to get you back home! Why are you still there???" like it's the gulag or something. Jesus, this place has a golf course.

The PT staff at this facility has determined that Jack would need a MINIMUM of 14 hours a day of supervision in order for him to go back home. If his siblings aren't going to provide it, then they can back the fuck up.

Oy. I'm sure they think they are helping.

My eyelids are still all swollen so I'm working from home today and I really don't want to work. Or do my taxes. Or anything else. Blergh.

(As an aside, I also am eyebrow raising the notion that two pairs of pants is an issue in itself. Better to have more, sure, but if they were dirty or falling apart that would have become apparent precisely because the boys are very involved. So outside of frequent laundry I'm not sure what she's on about anyway. )

Seriously! If you only like one thing, why not just buy a new pair when one wears out? Makes sense to me. (Also I currently want to throw away all of my clothes and start fresh, so.)

The PT staff at this facility has determined that Jack would need a MINIMUM of 14 hours a day of supervision in order for him to go back home. If his siblings aren't going to provide it, then they can back the fuck up.

That is correct. I feel like they can just fuck off in general anyway.

ION, Tim's 50-something cousin ran the Boston Marathon today and finished in 3:38. I'm in awe.