I think he's going to end up loving all the attention he gets in the rehab facility.

This was a wonderful part of my Mom's many rehab visits. Not only were the staff incredible with the actual rehab, but they fussed over her and were wonderful on the human interaction front.

Maybe you could have one of the doctors in the rehab facility talk to him about assisted living and why it would be benificial?

Steph, would it be possible to have him go to a daytime center where he'd get lunch plus interaction? kind of daddy day-care ... or have someone come in to check on him during the day? I know my sister had arranged for a home aide to come in when my mother got really bad - saw that she ate, took her medications, didn't burn down the house and so on.

Stepdad's Mom went to a senior daycare when she started to get dementia. They dropped her off and picked her up every day.

Man, you get 3 square meals that you don't need to cook yourself, lots of interaction with people, and optional interesting activities -- what's not to like?

I'm down. Where do I sign up?

Our house is an emotional roller coaster right now. Who knew CJ would turn out to be the stable one? With Cory (the bf) getting fired, their plans to move out are on hold. He completely afraid of upsetting Kelly and that he is responsible for them not moving out. I don't know if he has thought about the health care implications - he had coverage for himself and both his kids - one who has severe autism. Kelly knows he is fragile right now, so she is putting on a strong, "I'm not worried" front for him but after he fell asleep, she crawled in my bed crying. Me, I'm trying to provide the "Hey, you are safe, you have a roof over your head, I'm not kicking you out" support but man, I was looking forward to them moving out too. I love them both, but it is time. I want my home office to not be a corner of my bedroom. I want to enjoy spending time with them instead of being annoyed when dishes pile up and I been gone on a business trip.

Where is my internet ready cave?

That sounds like a rough situation SuziQ. I hope things work themselves out before too long.

Steph, would it be possible to have him go to a daytime center where he'd get lunch plus interaction? kind of daddy day-care ... or have someone come in to check on him during the day?

Those options exist, but in the past he flatly refused them. At this point, *if* he goes home, he will definitely have to have some kind of daily home care, and it's non-negotiable.

Good luck with Tim's dad, Steph. And I sympathize on supporting the stoic.

Suzi, that's so hard on K and her guy--and on the rest of you, too. I had both mine boomerang on me, and feelings are many and muddled, for everybody. It never stops being hard to be a parent.

That's rough, Suzi. Sympathies for all of you, I hope something works out for the better soon.

Steph, it would be a good idea to check out the home care options as well. Hubs's sister (basically wheelchair-bound) has an aide that comes in mornings to help her dress, pull together one to two meals (I'm not sure which), help with meds, do a little light cleaning, that sort of thing. There's also a nurse that comes in regularly -- I'm not sure how often, but it's at least 2-3 times a week -- to take her vital signs. When she was mobile, a physical therapist came in 2-3 times a week. So there's someone coming in fairly regularly during the day.

And it isn't like Hubs's sister has major assets or health insurance to pay for it.