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Natter 75: More Than a Million Natters Served  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Zenkitty - Feb 03, 2017 6:31:39 am PST #6692 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.

Although now I am thinking I should possibly file for a real name change because all my recent things are N____ Brooks T_____ and my childhood things are N_____ Marie T______, because I informally changed my middle name.

I think I should do the same. I've been going by my middle name since college, I even file my taxes as E__ L. S__, but my driver's license is in my birth name L__ E. S___. It's been confusing people for years. I should just change it legally.

There was an accident bad enough to leave pieces of car but they didn't take them? Wow

And no one was hurt enough to call an ambulance? Yeah, I'd call the non-emergency police number.


Zenkitty - Feb 03, 2017 6:32:41 am PST #6693 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.

Duolingo, Nazis, new shows, awesome Pinterest hair. I love our conversations.


SuziQ - Feb 03, 2017 6:41:41 am PST #6694 of 30002
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame

Although now I am thinking I should possibly file for a real name change because all my recent things are N____ Brooks T_____ and my childhood things are N_____ Marie T______, because I informally changed my middle name.

I don't have this specific issue, but my drivers license and SS card have Susan as my first name. But I sign my name as Suzi. It is that way on my drivers license. I've run into problems where I've been told I have to sign Susan to match my identification and I try to argue back that the same identification has my signature with Suzi.

When I was a notary public in California, the rule was a person could sign the equal to or less than the name on their identification. So I could do Susan, Suzi, Sue, S but not Suzanne. I really don't remember the direction if a person goes by their middle name.


zuisa - Feb 03, 2017 6:55:07 am PST #6695 of 30002
call me jacki; zuisa is an internet nick from ancient times =)

I run into that sometimes - my real name is 10 letters long so who have time to sign that? Plus literally no one calls me it. So I sign the shorter version I've on occasion been told it's not good enough.

Meanwhile my boyfriend literally squiggles a line for his signature and has never had an issue, so maybe we just need to sign less well?


brenda m - Feb 03, 2017 7:05:03 am PST #6696 of 30002
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there

Changing your name for reasons other than being a (het?) woman getting married is actually pretty onerous and costly. Or so I understand from friends who've been through it.


flea - Feb 03, 2017 7:12:55 am PST #6697 of 30002
information libertarian

Interestingly, the passport agency does not need documentation of a legal name change if the change involves a standard nickname or a minor change. So if your birth certificate says you were born Susan Smith, and your current license shows you as Suzi Smythe, you can get a passport as Suzi Smythe without documenting a legal name change. Also, married women who changed their names at marriage and are now getting a first passport do not need to prove they legally changed their names. If you were born Susan Smith and have a license showing Susan Jones, and list Jim Jones as your husband on the application, they are fine with that.


flea - Feb 03, 2017 7:14:12 am PST #6698 of 30002
information libertarian

OTOH if you are inconsistent about what your name is, that is more likely to be an issue with passports. If sometimes you are Susan Jones, and sometimes Susan Smythe-Jones, and sometimes Suzi Smythe, that is more problematic. Pick a name, is their philosophy.


Dana - Feb 03, 2017 7:15:45 am PST #6699 of 30002
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.

My reward for today is going to be a hair appointment. I may be getting something dyed blue. Or purple, maybe. Probably not all of my hair, but something. I'm not going into an office at the moment, so it seems like a good time.


meara - Feb 03, 2017 7:19:24 am PST #6700 of 30002

Ooh fun!! I have been loving my secret blue chunk (it's under other hair but peeks out here and there). Much as the all-blue hair was fun, I kinda figure this is more "me" anyway.

I have a couple friends who do not have passports due to name issues (one has rather different names on her birth certificate from her social security card to her other documents--I think having to do with both her mom's indecisiveness, poor spelling, and multiple re marriages (her mom, not her)


SuziQ - Feb 03, 2017 7:19:30 am PST #6701 of 30002
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame

Work is frustrating today.

OMG, I had no idea how frustrating when I wrote that. For the last 2.5 days I've been chasing a $200k variance. I have engaged a bunch of people to try to figure out why, how, who, etc. Today I sent a note to the person who started this mess saying I have exhausted my research abilities with no results and could he provide more information.

His response? Oh, the numbers match now. Must have been a mapping issue since our company just went through a HUGE reorganization and a ton of our internal coding has changed. So "Nevermind".

I want to RAGE QUIT for the day. I can't even express how....UGHHHHH...I am over this.