Anyway, I thought this might be kind of an antidote to high school horror stories (assuming it's for real).

he wanted to know, "How come the only people who are apologizing are the other people who were bullied?"

Because they're the ones who understand. And maybe the only ones that even remember.

I don't remember most of the kids that I went to 7th and 8th grade with. (My family moved during the summer after 8th grade, and I went to a different school for 9th grade and on.) Other than the kids I'd known since kindergarten, most of the ones I remember were the bullies.

Hil--and anyone else who felt the brunt of "boys will be boys"--I'm sorry that you went through that.

We are really shitty as a species sometimes, and I keep hoping that the good will overcome the bad, but lately I'm thinking not. It's a depressing though to have.

I keep hoping that the good will overcome the bad, but lately I'm thinking not.

I do retain optimism. Mostly because of my immediate circle. I have a disproportionate number of men in my life, in part because of the male dominated industry I started a business in 30 years ago, in part because I have 2 sons, in part because my husband is a boys basketball coach. The overwhelming majority of these men are equally appalled by the 'boys will be boys' attitude and demonstrate what I consider to be normal and proper behavior with regard to women. I've had conversations with them and they don't consider sexual assault any more normal than I do.

So not to go #notallmen or anything, but I still believe, maybe I have to, that it is a serious minority of men. Particularly with the younger generation. I could be delusional, but I don't think so.

So sorry, Hil, that sounds absolutely awful.

The Republicans have scheduled a vote for the day after Dr. Ford's testimony.

Looks like Murkowski, Flake or Collins might be swayed by the testimony.

I have another piece of good news -- I had emailed a big boss a question and hadn't gotten an answer, so I casually walked by his office at 12:50, and there he was! Not in a meeting, not eating lunch! Perfect timing!!!

A columnist - a woman - has asked why men aren't outraged by the repeated comments that "boys will be boys" seems to only be applied to boys/men will be sexual harassers, abusers, rapists as a matter of their nature. I know any number of men who aren't ... so why aren't men using the #notallmen hashtag to that effect?

he wanted to know, "How come the only people who are apologizing are the other people who were bullied?"

Because too many of the bullies still don't think they were the bullies, 'cuz can't you take a joke?

Hil, I don't have words for your history, but thank you for sharing it.