Oh, at first it was confusing. Just the idea of computers was like — whoa! I'm eleven hundred years old! I had trouble adjusting to the idea of Lutherans.

Anya ,'Get It Done'


Natter 75: More Than a Million Natters Served  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Jesse - Sep 26, 2018 4:01:39 am PDT #29934 of 30002
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

My gut is usually better than this! I think I was surprised at how well the external person did, which is what is making me second-guess.


Laura - Sep 26, 2018 4:05:44 am PDT #29935 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.

I understand. It is generally very easy for me to make decisions so when it isn't it throws me.


Jesse - Sep 26, 2018 4:21:37 am PDT #29936 of 30002
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

I also have other anxiety right now about other things, so that also isn't helping. Am I worried about this hire, or the strangers who are about to come stay in my house? WHO CAN TELL???


Dana - Sep 26, 2018 5:00:15 am PDT #29937 of 30002
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."

Wow, people are terrible.


Laura - Sep 26, 2018 5:08:48 am PDT #29938 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.

True, Dana. Hence my determination to surround myself with the not terrible ones.


sj - Sep 26, 2018 5:15:37 am PDT #29939 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Hil, that is awful. I'm so sorry. I'm sorry for everything the wonderful buffistas had to put up with from people.


sj - Sep 26, 2018 5:27:29 am PDT #29940 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Sitter just canceled for this afternoon. I was feeling awful yesterday, but luckily I feel better today.


Hil R. - Sep 26, 2018 5:46:29 am PDT #29941 of 30002
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

Thanks, everyone. Those yearbook pages that are all over the news seem to have triggered me on this.

Poor Renate. But thinking about her has made me able to put into words something that I couldn't quite put into words before. I was told, "Ignore them, and they'll stop. They're only doing it to get your attention." And I ignored them, and they didn't stop. So I figured I was just bad at ignoring them -- that I couldn't control my face and body movements well enough so that they would think I actually didn't notice them, rather than a pointed "I'm ignoring you, but the fact of my ignoring means that I've noticed." And I know (and I've known for years) that that wasn't it, but that yearbook made me see a way to put it -- they weren't trying to get Renate's attention. They weren't saying anything to her at all. As far as she knew, they were her friends. They were doing it for their own amusement, because to them, she wasn't really a person.

I found Buffistas my freshman year of college. This community helped me, a lot.


Hil R. - Sep 26, 2018 5:56:11 am PDT #29942 of 30002
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

The year after I was voted homecoming princess, one of my male friends was voted princess. They mostly managed to keep that quiet, and just announced the girl who had the highest number of votes. I didn't know about it until he mentioned it several years ago, after there was an episode of Glee where that happened. A year or two ago, after Buzzfeed for some reason had a listicle about the town where we grew up, telling about how great it was, he posted on Facebook about how that article was total crap, and the town was a homophobic hellhole, and he listed a lot of the things that had happened to him. I messaged him to say that I was sorry for not sticking up for him better back then, and he said that it was fine, he was over it now, but he also commented that I was the second person to send him a message like that, and he wanted to know, "How come the only people who are apologizing are the other people who were bullied?"

One of the guys who was really awful sent me a friend request on Facebook a few years ago. I deleted it. And last year, I got into an argument with another one of them on a mutual friend's Facebook post, and he blocked me after like two comments. (He was saying that we should just ignore the tiki Nazis, since they just want attention. I said that I'd heard that logic before, and it was just as much bullshit now as it was then.)


Dana - Sep 26, 2018 6:20:39 am PDT #29943 of 30002
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."

Avenatti has released a statement from his client saying that Kavanaugh and Judge and others (tw for assault, though I can't imagine anyone being able to escape this news) spiked the punch at parties and then gang-raped girls, including her.