Back at work today. Just have to figure out the intro music to play when I call into my scrum meeting later this morning.

Crap. My wife started a new part-time job and today was her first day of training. She send me a text message with some reminders of things to do (take out the garbage which I had already done and wake up my son which I didn't know I had to do since he doesn't have work or school today). I just texted back that I would take care of it. Now she's angry that I didn't wish her luck on her first day. I always fuck things up. I'll get there isn't another husband who would forget that. What is wrong with me?

You are back at work after being in the hospital. Did she ask how you were feeling? Did you get angry with her?

You Did Nothing Wrong!!! You do not deserve being abused.

If Brendon forgot to ask me about something I thought he should remember I might mock him and joke about it, feign being sad, but never would I be angry over something so insignificant.

How angry is she? Not talking to you/ screaming invective/ just a little miffed?

Hard to say over text. Usually glares and not talking except for verbal digs.

I'll get there isn't another husband who would forget that.

Not so, my friend! (Especially a husband who just got back from the hospital, IJS.)

Usually glares and not talking except for verbal digs.

I wish you could tune those out. Therapy for coping strategies! (IANATherapist) (Heading to therapist shortly to work on some coping strategies on a variety of issues including how to support my husband's depression and anxiety without getting lost in it.)

including how to support my husband's depression and anxiety

Because that is what we do! Spouses support each other, not belittle or abuse them.

Not going to say I have never gotten angry at my DH, because I am human! But it is rare, and either ends with regret because I was over tired and bad moody, or with discussion of the reason. Number one person in life is my life partner so being supportive is essential.

Then having made a small, sincere apology, it's on her to get over what is a very small error.

Helping her to learn appropriate coping strategies would be better for both of you than emotionally tiptoeing around afraid to make the smallest mistake.

There are always going to be mistakes.

I broke, or my husband broke, or they just broke by themselves, but my computer glasses are broken. My transitional lenses are totally annoying for computer work so I think today will be a housework day. Oh well.

I paid for one day shipping of new ones from Amazon for a $4 upcharge, but the chances of actually getting next day up here are pretty slim.

Gud, what's wrong with you sounds like depression. And it may be a bigger threat to your health than that infection was last week. You're on the road that I was on last year. Take it from me, you want to get off that road.

So I beg you, on my knees if that's what it takes, GET PROFESSIONAL HELP. NOW. Make an appointment with a therapist or a psychiatrist, call a hot line, find a support group, talk to a peer counselor, talk to your pastor -- DO SOMETHING.