Does she just not enunciate her Ts? Probably a moo point.

I've now seen it in writing twice!

Jesse, I can't decide if I want to die on the "it's not even a homophone!" hill.

In a weird situation with friends, could use some Buffista advice. I have a friendquaintance (FQ). I hung out with his husband at a conference that we were attending. Hubby and I really hit it off; I remind hubby of his BFF who passed away. I was peripherally at the conference, so Hubby and I were hanging out and partying like rock stars. Get back from the conference, Hubby texts me two weeks later to joke that he's been out of touch because he had to detox for two weeks.

Hubby later invites me to a dance party at Pride this upcoming weekend in NY, offers to book me a room at their hotel with their points, sounds like a blast.

Monday, Hubby and I have dinner and drinks and firm up plans. FQ then messages me on Facebook the next day asking me to "be honest with him" and tell him if Hubby was drinking on Monday. He then says that Hubby is an alcoholic and needs to focus on sobriety, so the weekend is cancelled. I don't have Messenger on my phone, so I don't see the messages until late last night.

I punt and reply that I don't want to get in the middle, love them both. I also had already planned to be in NY for my friend's bday party, so I told him that I'd be in NY anyway and not to worry about me. I have not heard from Hubby, not sure I should reach out. And if Hubby just moves forward with the weekend, should I go?

On the one hand, if Hubby really is trying to get sober, I don't want to mess that up by being all "let's party for Pride". OTOH, if FQ has invented this whole drama by deciding that Hubby is an alcoholic, I don't want Hubby to think that I believe that he has a problem.

I don't know if he does, really. I've never seen him drink too much inappropriately, but I have seen him drunk a few times. He's told me a few embarrassing stories (but a lot of people have those)

On the third hand, if Hubby is in denial about his condition, I don't want to enable.

Ugh. What to do?

Oh lord. All this ladder and tenant and...argh. I've been working with PowerPoint slides and business people the last two days (which I don't normally do) and that's been bad enough! Don't make me worry about "peaking" their interest

Vortex, can you ask Hubby directly? Like "hey, your husband is saying you are sober, if so I didn't know that, let me know if I should change any plans, perfectly happy to do dinner instead of drink or whatever"? Or something along those lines? I mean the man could be in denial but neither you nor his husband can get him out of that.

I was thinking that I should just reach out to Hubby and ask if we are still on for this weekend.

Oh jeez, Vortex, that's tough. You could just let it ride and not see Hubby unless he reaches out.

Yeah, but I don't want to punish Hubby or make him think that I think he has a problem if his husband is just being dramatic because he had a few drinks on a Monday.

If Hubby told you he had to detox for a couple weeks after partying it could be a problem exists. Ugh. Tough.

I have apparently lost my mind so I am up late packing because I am departing for NY in the very early morning. All week I have been suffering over the decision with my cousin passing away and tonight I told DH I really wanted to be there for his service Saturday. So on the road. Made reservations to fly back on the 1st to do all the wedding prep stuff then the dog and DH will drive back up there after the wedding. Insane. I may need to take up coffee again.

So the new EO on family separation trades family separation for family detention. So long as the administration insists on criminal prosecution for every single immigrant, even the asylum seekers (! which is illegal!), they will end up separating the children. It's just that instead of separating them immediately, they'll keep the family together until the parent is charged and then separate them.

ARGH.

Can Native American tribes grant asylum? Do they have that legal standing as a nation?

Sadly, no. Reservations are domestic dependent nations, subordinate to the Federal government. Which is why most tribal police departments can only prosecute misdemeanors: the FBI has to be called in for felony crimes. The tribes do get some special authorities, but most of them do not have the wherewithal to defy the government directly on matters of national security.