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Mayor ,'Lies My Parents Told Me'


Natter 75: More Than a Million Natters Served  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Steph L. - May 19, 2018 2:48:20 pm PDT #25363 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

eta: the kids are using Elvis Presley's Can't help falling in love with you for their dance song.

Awwww, so sweet!


Connie Neil - May 19, 2018 2:55:22 pm PDT #25364 of 30002
brillig

Renewed the car registration at the same place I got the inspection done. Hooray for the 21st century! Next I'm going to order some groceries to be delivered tomorrow.


Jesse - May 19, 2018 2:56:14 pm PDT #25365 of 30002
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

I've been listening to various options from internet lists of such things, and I keep tearing up! Too many options.

Aw! Whatever you pick will be perfect.


aurelia - May 19, 2018 7:30:37 pm PDT #25366 of 30002
All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story. Tell me a story.

I hadn't even considered that I would know people attending the royal wedding. Turns out there were at least two people I've worked with there!


Consuela - May 19, 2018 8:33:36 pm PDT #25367 of 30002
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix

Gina Torres was at the wedding! I was so surprised to see her picture.


Theodosia - May 20, 2018 4:42:18 am PDT #25368 of 30002
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"

It speaks well of the Duchess of Sussex that with all the world to invite to her wedding she made space for a bunch of co-workers.


Gudanov - May 20, 2018 6:19:30 am PDT #25369 of 30002
Coding and Sleeping

And what is your wife doing this weekend, Gud?

Working on her business, so she's been busy. She's been trying to start her own counseling practice for the past year. So far it hasn't been going great.


Jesse - May 20, 2018 6:46:21 am PDT #25370 of 30002
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

I hadn't even considered that I would know people attending the royal wedding. Turns out there were at least two people I've worked with there!

Oh wow!

It speaks well of the Duchess of Sussex that with all the world to invite to her wedding she made space for a bunch of co-workers.

I keep yelling, "Her friends from work!!"

I didn't realize (or forgot?) that Gina Torres and Laurence Fishburne had broken up.


Gudanov - May 20, 2018 6:59:36 am PDT #25371 of 30002
Coding and Sleeping

Ugh. I forgot to hook up the host from the rail barrel to the pond and made the pond miss out on a bunch of rain, so now my wife is pretty angry with good cause. I really wish I could stop making mistakes. After she yells at me I always end up feeling really depressed and it's hard to get work done. But I have to hide that because if she knew that, she'd end up feeling guilty about it and that isn't fair. She has a right to be angry when I screw up. The problem is that I screw up a lot. Ugh. I think it's just going to be a bad day.


Steph L. - May 20, 2018 7:13:17 am PDT #25372 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

She has a right to be angry when I screw up.

That is fucking BULLSHIT. You are being complicit in her abuse of you.

Every human being screws up. I screw up. I make mistakes, I drop things, I break things. You know what my husband DOESN'T do? Get angry at me. Because that's fucking abusive.

I dropped a full gallon of milk once -- a plastic jug -- and the container split along its seam vertically and there was a flood of milk on the kitchen floor. I "screwed up" and wasted a full gallon of milk. You know what Tim did? Grabbed paper towels and helped me mop it up. You know what I did? I physically tensed up and braced myself because I expected him to yell and rage at me for making a mess and wasting food, because that kind of reaction is what my mother did to me my entire childhood. Because she was abusive.

Tim didn't do that. Because you don't get angry and abuse your spouse when they are human and make mistakes. You roll with it. You act with understanding and compassion. If you happen to get annoyed or irritated, you own that shit and DON'T take it out on them because that's fucking abusive bullshit.