Sorry, Dana. Being in the software biz, I know about crunch time and those 80 hour weeks. Luckily, I haven't had to pull any of those in a long time. When I worked for a really small company with will big clients (Microsoft, Lotus, IBM, Adobe, etc...) I had to pull some 24-hour days and I don't think I could physically do that now. Anyhow, it sucks and I'm sorry you have to deal with it.

Looks like it's going to be a bad weekend. I have a million things to do and I really pissed off my wife with what I did last night. When I got home from work she told me she had gotten stuff for dinner from the grocery store to make Tacos and Hamburger Helper for dinner. (My daughter doesn't eat tacos so I usually make a secondary dinner when I cook tacos). However, she said she didn't really want either. Being tired after a busy day at work, I suggested carry-out and she agreed. I thought I said "How about I get carry-out?" but I must have said "How about I get you carry-out?" So when I got back with food for everybody she let me have it big time. Behind her, my daughter even had a "holy shit is she angry" look.

Things don't seem much better today on that front, but she just left so at least I an listen to something while I do some cleaning. I need to do cleaning (that's a long list by itself), yard work, fix a loose connection with my daughter's car stereo, help out my FIL with some computer stuff, address a couple of things on my wife's website, do some work for work (critical project and all that), and, of course, make Tacos tonight. I'd really like to work on the beta board too, but I don't think I can get to it this weekend especially with tomorrow being mother's day and stuff.

Wow that turned out to be a long post. Sorry for the rambling. Don't really have anybody else to talk to though.

I though I said "How about I get carry-out?" but I must have said "How about I get you carry-out?" So when I got back with food for everybody she let me have it big time.

That makes literally no sense.

Also, to the long-hours-workers: don't apologize for hating that, either! It is totally normal to hate that!! Even if other people also do it!

This has been Jesse with, You can feel bad about things that are bad!

I have an overabundant crop of coconuts this year

I just boggle at you folks who live in warm climates who have actual coconut trees and/or avocado trees and/or citrus trees and just trot on out to the backyard to grab the produce that I pay an assload at the grocery store for. The United States is too damn big and has too many temperature zones.

I am eating oatmeal every day for a month before my physical in hopes that I won't get the side eye from my PCP over my cholesterol.

Oatmeal really brought my cholesterol down.

I have a friend who's eating a ketogenic diet for weight loss, and she's been pretty successful and she said her cholesterol came way down, but when I asked her what she eats, it's literally meat, cheese, heavy cream, and "a few leaves" (which I guess is salad greens). I mean, no other veggies? No fruit? I get that cutting down on starchy carbs can be helpful to some people, but I would lose my goddamn mind if all I could eat was meat and cheese, with a handful of salad for variation. Also, that sounds like a recipe for nutritional deficiencies.

That makes literally no sense.

I fixed the typo. I meant "I thought", not "I though".

That makes literally no sense.

I fixed the typo. I meant "I thought", not "I though".

No, the part that makes no sense is that she got angry at you for bringing home food for her children and for yourself. What kind of abusive psychopath gets angry when their spouse feeds their children?

I wish you were going to therapy for this, Gud. I really do. And I think your kids need therapy as well. I was raised by an abusive mother, and it fucked me up big time. Therapy is helping a lot, though. And it would be a kindness to get your kids into therapy. Because, yeah, your wife is abusive as hell.

I'm not pretending it's an easy situation to fix, because it's not. And my heart breaks for you and your kids. But I'll be totally blunt, here: she is damaging your kids. She absolutely is. And she's damaging you.

No, the part that makes no sense is that she got angry at you for bringing home food for her children and for yourself.

Correct. That is what I meant.

Timelies all!

The ac is now fixed. Soon we will go to lunch, then to Carters and the comic book shop.

^^^ Everything Steph said. I've been married a total of 45 years, and that is not how spouses treat each other. The kids are going to think it is normal behavior, and it isn't.

Mother's Day plan is coming together. Tonight the kids are taking us, and Tate's parents, out for Thai. Then tomorrow I am having my friend that lost her mom a couple months ago and others over for brunch. Friend is vegan so menu is:

Mimosas - lots of mimosas
Hummus toast (they don't like avocado!, why do I even talk to them?)
Baked beans on toast
no flour Pumpkin muffins (oats and stuff in them)
Brownies

Booze, a couple savery options, a couple sweet options. I can manage this. Alas it is going to be storming all day so inside brunch.

Gud, I agree with everything Steph said. I want you and your kids to be happy, and learn that your wife's treatment of you isn't how a marriage or partnership should be.