Sooner or later, you're gonna want it. And the second — the second — that happens, you know I'll be there. I'll slip in, have myself a real good day.

Spike ,'Conversations with Dead People'


Natter 75: More Than a Million Natters Served  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Theodosia - Dec 01, 2017 1:59:42 am PST #19413 of 30002
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"

-ma to all.


Kat - Dec 01, 2017 3:48:14 am PST #19414 of 30002
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo

Ugh, Suzi, I'm so sorry. Being strong is totally overrated.

I'm in agreement with burrell, hippo. She's super wise.

So I'm in an overwhelmed spiral. And I mentioned all the Grace stuff on FB, but I think I'm also really struggling with facing how bad off my dad is. Everyone in this group is professional level at handling a parent in failing health so it seems whiney to complain.

The weird part for me is dealing with Grace in a nursing home was different. For lack of better description, there was hope. Since we didn't have a roadmap of what to expect, we didn't know all the things that she was losing. And she wasn't really losing things. Most of the children at Totally Kids improved and clawed their way back (except the small handful who really didn't).

But my dad is a like a sweater that someone has pulled a piece of yarn on and he is just slowly unravelling. And what feels like such a shock because I'm so naive, is how little there is left of who he was. On Thanksgiving, I stopped to say good bye as we were going to the airport . He was curled on his side asleep. I whispered "I love you" and "goodbye' and gave him a kiss and he looked at me and said my name and said "I love you too". He was there for just that moment.

I'm so sad and tired.


juliana - Dec 01, 2017 4:12:39 am PST #19415 of 30002
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…

Oh, Kat. I'm so sorry.


Calli - Dec 01, 2017 4:17:09 am PST #19416 of 30002
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

I'm sorry, Kat. It is hard.


meara - Dec 01, 2017 4:17:23 am PST #19417 of 30002

Kat that's totally sucky. Can you take unpaid intermittent FMLA for some relief, or do you have a "just make it to Christmas break"feel?


Jessica - Dec 01, 2017 4:19:33 am PST #19418 of 30002
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset

I'm so sorry Kat. You have more on your plate than anyone should have to bear.


Jesse - Dec 01, 2017 4:29:14 am PST #19419 of 30002
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

I'm so sorry, Suzi.

And sorry for you, too, Kat. So hard.


Tom Scola - Dec 01, 2017 4:37:11 am PST #19420 of 30002
hwæt

Michael Flynn is pleading guilty today, and in all likelihood has flipped. So maybe things are starting to look up.


Kat - Dec 01, 2017 4:40:44 am PST #19421 of 30002
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo

Kat that's totally sucky. Can you take unpaid intermittent FMLA for some relief, or do you have a "just make it to Christmas break"feel?

I have 11 days of work until then. I think I can do it. It's just being nibbled by ducks in terms of trying to make sure Grace's shit doesn't get screwed up (Spoiler: IT ALWAYS DOES).


WindSparrow - Dec 01, 2017 4:42:12 am PST #19422 of 30002
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

love to all, ma to them that needs it.