I'm not on the ship. I'm in the ship. I am the ship.

River ,'Objects In Space'


Natter 75: More Than a Million Natters Served  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


-t - Jun 21, 2017 6:28:10 am PDT #12901 of 30002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Good luck, tommyrot! I hope the job search is way easier than expected.


Steph L. - Jun 21, 2017 7:07:01 am PDT #12902 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

Thanks for the florist tips, folks! I just didn't want to screw it up and have flowers not show up.

Because I'm 99% sure I'm not going to the funeral. For reasons that are extremely long to sum up, but include the fact that it's going to be raining (possibly hard, as a remnant of the tropical storm [hurricane?] in the South right now) and it's a 50-minute drive ONE WAY in *good weather* (so god only knows what it will be like in the pouring rain), and I just...can't.

I asked myself, if the situation were reversed and it were my dad who had passed away (which will be the case someday [unless there's a family secret he hasn't told me, HIGHLANDER DAD]), and a cousin (or anyone, really) didn't come to the funeral, I would assume they had a good reason and really wouldn't give it another thought. Now, I can't control anyone's responses, and my dad might get pissed at me for not going, but I can't control that either.

And it's not because it's my birthday; that's just unfortunate timing. It's entirely because I just can't do it. I genuinely think the outcome, in terms of my mental health, would be very very bad. And I care more about my mental health than I do about my family members (including my dad) being pissed at me.

But I sure am glad I have therapy tomorrow.


-t - Jun 21, 2017 7:12:22 am PDT #12903 of 30002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

That sounds like a well-thought out and right decision, Steph. I am glad you care more about your mental health than other people's opinions.


sj - Jun 21, 2017 7:12:58 am PDT #12904 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

I think you are making the right decision, Teppy.


Steph L. - Jun 21, 2017 7:42:32 am PDT #12905 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

I'm also really happy about living in the future, because I just did both of the following things online:

1. Had an e-visit with my doctor's office for a sinus infection (it's a really thorough online questionnaire, with places for free-text responses), so I should have antibiotics by this evening; and

2. Ordered pizza for dinner to pick up after I take the kitten to his first vet appointment. (My favorite pizza place offers a gluten-free crust, but only at certain locations, so I can't get it delivered. However, one of the locations is 2 minutes from the vet, so any vet appointment is an opportunity to get gluten-free pizza for carryout AW YEAH.)

Didn't have to talk to a single human being. Boom.


smonster - Jun 21, 2017 7:50:38 am PDT #12906 of 30002
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

Steph, yes. I am so proud of you for making a well-thought out decision based on your mental health. I know it's all very sad and sober, but I'm bouncing just a tiny bit on the inside because I feel like this is important progress for you and critical self-care.

ION, just had a tornado warning. Helper and I sat under the stairs until the all-clear. Half a tree already fell in the back yard, looks like it was rotten or had insects at the bottom The other half looks like if it goes, it will hit the neighbor's garage.


-t - Jun 21, 2017 7:54:06 am PDT #12907 of 30002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Yikes, smonster! Be careful.


Steph L. - Jun 21, 2017 7:57:10 am PDT #12908 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

ION, just had a tornado warning.

All the NOLA weather needs to start acting right. That's scary!


Zenkitty - Jun 21, 2017 8:12:54 am PDT #12909 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.

Steph, many props for taking care of yourself!

Everybody in the path of the storm, take care and be safe!

Is there any place left that's safe and also cool? I'm moving there if there is.


smonster - Jun 21, 2017 8:17:50 am PDT #12910 of 30002
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

I left a note for the neighbor. There was no one home.

It's really not that bad, just heavy rain and steady wind.