Pants! It is a red-letter day, my friends.
Gud, I don't want you to feel like we're piling on, but we *do* care about you. If you're calling your wife's behavior X and at least a dozen of us are calling it Y, don't you think it's worth considering that the majority could be right?
What smonster said is especially helpful, I think. Imagine someone you care about telling you the story you told us. What would you tell him?
I just want to hug you. And I kind of want to sit her down and tell her to look at her choices.
Timelies all!
What they said, Gud. It's not right for you to have to walk on eggshells all the time.
Paaaants.
And I will vote for individual therapy, NOT couple's therapy. I know it feels like there's no time, but I bet you can make time.
It would be time for yourself, which you both need and deserve.
I wish there was a way to tell the ad generators "I've bought my car, you can stop sending me car dealership ads now, thanks."
Gud, I think I remember you saying that you wouldn't consider changing anything until your kids were out of school. If that's the case, at least please try to work on a more realistic and kind attitude towards yourself, no matter what your wife says or believes. You don't deserve to be miserable. You don't deserve to be treated like you're constantly doing horrible things, when you're not.
She's a good person
Not even by crazy troll logic.
Good people don't make other people feel shitty about themselves.
I have the greatest sympathy for anyone who has a loved one too quick to anger.
Perhaps reading about boundaries could help.
Hoping it will work for me before I'm 75.
Also: tommy, Oakland airport is nice and easy. I choose it over SFO every time. Safe travels home to you. And yes, their shuttles start early.
Oakland airport is nice and easy.
Conversely, the last time I flew out of Oakland*, I was reprimanded for getting there less than an hour before my flight, security was a complete cluster, and I missed my flight because of the whacked out way the gates were numbered. (Seriously, they made me cry in frustration). So, at least a good hour in advance.
* Disclaimer: this WAS several years ago, so grain of salt, maybe KB has had good experiences more recent than my nightmare.
