Quick question for the hivemind: Tip the furniture delivery guy? What if I've already paid the delivery fee? What if he's the owner? I don't want to hurt his feelings if I should tip but don't, or insult him if I shouldn't tip an owner but do. Help?
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JZ - Oct 22, 2015 4:22:48 pm PDT #7602 of 30003
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
sarameg - Oct 22, 2015 4:29:16 pm PDT #7603 of 30003
So I have this cousin that adores me, and I him. But he basically has no filters and ..stuff ( I'm guessing he's autistic but we've never been told and I don't know he's been diagnosed. The Midwestern denial runs strong in that family.) Anyway, he's on fb and we've had the occasional run in where I've either had to tell him "inappropriate, stop it" or he's taken something I've said completely wrong. Uhg. I'm one of the few cousins who will really engage him because the rest tend to get all offended and off put, where I'm mostly able to negotiate the gap between his communication and intent and call out of bounds when he's being too much. In person, he takes my limit setting pretty well, but on fb, gets all butthurt. Sigh. I'd just block him, but he'd notice and God forbid he mention it to his mom, who is still pretty fragile after losing my uncle and worrying about him. Oh family.
meara - Oct 22, 2015 4:39:43 pm PDT #7604 of 30003
Not sure about the "if he's the owner". I'd probably tip $20 if he's not. Unless it was like, a super easy "hey, I walked this chair three steps into your house", vs "I maneuvered a couch up two flights of stairs"?
Laura - Oct 22, 2015 4:42:02 pm PDT #7605 of 30003
Our wings are not tired.
JZ, I would tip if you feel the service deserved it. I would likely decide in the moment.
sarameg, my guess is that he adores you because you communicate with him on a level that others don't. Pick your battles. But keep communication open as it is likely valuable for him.
Sue - Oct 22, 2015 4:54:47 pm PDT #7606 of 30003
hip deep in pie
I don't think I've ever tipped the furniture delivery guy.
sarameg - Oct 22, 2015 5:01:11 pm PDT #7607 of 30003
Yeah, I plan to. Just finding a bunch of butthurt IMs, realizing I gotta send a careful clarification...it's tiring. His partner has my respect. I suspect her esl status helps, she's always asking him to rephrase, to say what he means. Her patience must come from when she was much less fluent (she's pretty cautious around new people in social situations, and yet she's a restaurant mgr in a fancy pants place, so communication isn't a core issue.)
msbelle - Oct 22, 2015 5:03:11 pm PDT #7608 of 30003
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
um east coast? GO TO BED OR AT LEAST GET OFFA YOUR COMPUTER.
you are welcome.
Steph L. - Oct 22, 2015 5:07:02 pm PDT #7609 of 30003
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
um east coast? GO TO BED OR AT LEAST GET OFFA YOUR COMPUTER.
Noooooooo.
Actually, literally no, because I have work to do still. Freelancing time-management fail.
sarameg - Oct 22, 2015 5:10:04 pm PDT #7610 of 30003
If I'm getting up at 5:30, got at least 2 more hrs.
-t - Oct 22, 2015 5:11:00 pm PDT #7611 of 30003
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
I t heart msbelle.
I don't think I have ever tipped furniture delivery guys, unless DH did for me. Do not know the protocol. Mostly pick up my furniture myself or assemble it, though.
Sounds like maybe the infamous tone on the internet problem rearing its ugly head, sarameg. Hope navigating is not too fraught.