And you're not alone. You've got a bunch of friends and a bunch of us know what it feels like to feel that way. We're always here for you.

Thanks.

Is there anyone there you can talk to? A therapist, a helpful friend? You sound like you could use someone to talk to.

I can't think of anyone to talk to. I'll get through. It's just really hard right now.

Gud, I totally feel you. You can only do so much. One thing at a time. If any of he house things can be started or done by your kids, ask them to help. Otherwise things can wait. Triage and give yourself credit for doing what you can.

Gud, that sounds like a lot to do. Best of luck.

It would be useful to know salary range, but most people would probably then expect to be in at least the top half of it, so...I was interested to find my ex coworker say that her new job is paying a bit more--our company is generally known for good salaries but terrible work environment. It's dumb, too, because there are several things they could do that I would totally trade some salary for (starting with a newer lighter laptop!!!)

I'm so sorry you're struggling, Gud.

Speaking for myself, I HATE knowing anything about anyone's salary. I absolutely do not want to know what my peers make, what my stakeholders make etc. No good can come of that.

[With the caveat that I don't have any reason to suspect, and what I do know does not indicate any kind of systematic imbalance, which is the most compelling reason to have visibility for salary info.]

I do know what my direct reports make, of course, and only recently have I been able to know what the range is for those roles, because I'm hiring for same/similar positions. So I know I have a person who is wildly overpaid, and another wildly underpaid. Which really has to do with when they came on and who hired them, but it drives me bonkers and it's not something I can do much to fix.

So turns out everyone lied to us about the weather in England. It's been sunny nearly every day, and yesterday was completely cloudless. Today we finally got actual English mist, although I might still have got a sunburn.

Already a bit tired of English pub food, but tonight we get Indian, and the beer and tea have both been good. Plus, scones!

No injuries yet beyond a few blisters, and we only got chased out of a field by cows once. Excelsior!

Pictures, such as they are, are, will be forthcoming.

Mwah! I go poof.

I'm sorry Gud. I know the feeling, and I get how struggling so hard all the time starts to feel like you're failing, but I know you are not. Great dad, hard working, just overstressed.

I had to disclose my salary recently to one of my colleagues, and I admit it was easier knowing that we were payed roughly the same. But knowing that some of the more recent hires are getting payed more than me rankles, unless I can see how their role as X, Y or Z in the department justifies it.

I think the culture against sharing salary in the US comes out of a bunch of different factors that all create sort of a noxious brew. First it's the knowing that your value as a person and your power is fairly directly tied to your income. Second, there are lots of laws regulating pay accountability, and every single employer is busy trying to work around those laws, so dissuading people from sharing salary info is to their advantage. Third, most people fear getting fired.

[With the caveat that I don't have any reason to suspect, and what I do know does not indicate any kind of systematic imbalance, which is the most compelling reason to have visibility for salary info.]

Yeah, that's why The Man doesn't want you to know! Specifically because men make more.

I'm glad to have seen my reports in a list, because one of them is due an off-cycle salary review, and I didn't realize she's paid a little less than her counterpart, so I can certainly up her that much!

Indian food in England is a whole other cuisine and so damn good! Enjoy it, Consuela

Indian food in England is a whole other cuisine and so damn good! Enjoy it, Consuela

What Burrell said. We got tired of pub food after a while too, although the meat pies were quite good, there is only so much of that we could eat.

I have had enough of today.

ETAdetail: it's been like a Monday turned up to 11, which does not seem fair when I worked yesterday. But everyone who didn't is coming with their questions they couldn't ask over the weekend and it is too much.