That's one spunky little girl you've raised. I'm gonna eat her.

The Mayor ,'End of Days'


Natter 74: Ready or Not  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


dcp - Oct 02, 2016 8:26:06 am PDT #28614 of 30003
The more I learn, the more I realize how little I know.

...it's back to being yelled at and criticized a good deal of the time.

Log it. Log it all.


Steph L. - Oct 02, 2016 8:29:37 am PDT #28615 of 30003
I look more rad than Lutheranism

...it's back to being yelled at and criticized a good deal of the time.

I hope that's not hard for Em to witness/deal with.


Dana - Oct 02, 2016 8:42:33 am PDT #28616 of 30003
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.

I am trying to get my husband out the door to go back to Dallas. It's not easy.


Zenkitty - Oct 02, 2016 8:55:38 am PDT #28617 of 30003
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.

I saw an adolescent going down the street on a hoverboard, wearing a gorilla mask. My little neighborhood just got a bit more interesting.


Gudanov - Oct 02, 2016 9:30:39 am PDT #28618 of 30003
Coding and Sleeping

I hope that's not hard for Em to witness/deal with.

Yeah. She might not have heard this morning's with her headphones on in a different room. She did mention one of the things that stresses her is when my wife yells at me. Sometimes Em's also mentioned that my wife sometimes gets on me for almost nothing. I've tried to downplay it, but that's probably not a good thing to do. Why do things have to be so tough?

Right now I'm hoping my wife will move to another location in the house, there's a bunch of stuff I want to clean up in the kitchen and living room, but it would make too much noise with her right there. She's already gotten on me about cleaning too loudly.

Man, that really makes her sound like an ogre, but she's not. She's just under a lot of stress and has insecurities. I mean, it's what's happening, but describing it makes it sound more critical than I mean.


Consuela - Oct 02, 2016 9:33:53 am PDT #28619 of 30003
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix

Gud, that your wife has insecurities and stress does not make it OKAY that she yells at you for unreasonable things. It explains it, but it does not justify it. And it is not good for your kids to witness this, because (a) it stresses them out; and (b) models that behavior for them so they absorb the idea that it's appropriate.

Please try to get some family counseling as part of Em's treatment, I hope it will help.


P.M. Marc - Oct 02, 2016 9:35:52 am PDT #28620 of 30003
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear

I've tried to downplay it, but that's probably not a good thing to do.

...

Man, that really makes her sound like an ogre, but she's not. She's just under a lot of stress and has insecurities. I mean, it's what's happening, but describing it makes it sound more critical than I mean.

Stress and insecurities are making her behave like one. This is why family counselling is critical right now, for all of you.


Anne W. - Oct 02, 2016 10:35:50 am PDT #28621 of 30003
The lost sheep grow teeth, forsake their lambs, and lie with the lions.

What Plei said. Also, therapy may help your wife learn to deal with the stress and insecurity rather than suffer (and make others suffer) from them.


tommyrot - Oct 02, 2016 11:02:17 am PDT #28622 of 30003
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.

I wish you good results in dealing with this, Gud. Family counseling sounds like a good idea.

Got woken up twice last night around 3 am by one of Walter's prostitutes. Everybody in my section of the building wants Walter evicted. Gonna wait and see what the landlord says first, and then maybe we'll talk to our Alderman, Joe Moore.


Jesse - Oct 02, 2016 11:26:51 am PDT #28623 of 30003
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

It explains it, but it does not justify it.

That is such an important distinction, in so many situations.

Got woken up twice last night around 3 am by one of Walter's prostitutes.

Just curious: how do you know the difference between a drug dealer and a prostitute in this situation? Fingers crossed Walter can get evicted.