Divorce is so hard. Sometimes you just aren't right for each other.
It is. As is breaking up when you didn't marry. It is really hard to admit defeat and failure, and this is often what it feels like. Taking a good look at a relationship (personal or career) and seeing that it is not making you a better person, or is preventing you from becoming a better person isn't easy.
In the decades that followed my divorce each time I felt bad about the failure I had to remind myself that we were not good for each other. I'll never know if we could have "worked" harder and made it succeed, but I don't believe he would have changed, and I had, and it was for the better.
It still feels like work. Adults do not agree on everything, and when it is important things like raising children or health or even finances it is often seriously hard work to respect the other's opinion and work through solutions that work for both. DH and I have the extra fun of running a business together too! It is worth the effort, but there is effort at times.
Relationships are not reserved for the elites who have their shit together (hint: they don't exist). Relationships are all about being with someone who adores your flavor of wacky. It's not about measuring up to another person's idea of what a partner should be
Feel this should be repeated. Again and again.
Hugs to all who have loved and lost in either divorce or death. It just plain sucks.
My sister lost her husband in an accident when they were in the midst of a particularly bad spell. It wasn't a healthy relationship, and most of the family quietly believes it would have ended in divorce had he lived. But he didn't, so she gets to have those unfun what if questions hanging over her head. That was 30 years ago and she never dated even once after he died.
It was a rough morning, and I'm trying to be productive though I'm feeling so down and stressed that I've become physically ill. Ugh.
Sorry for being a bit of downer today. It's just, well, there's nobody else I can tell.
It's just, well, there's nobody else I can tell.
Dude, it's why we're *here*.
We're here for you, Gud, and we'll listen. You don't need to apologize for a rough morning.
No need for apologies, Gud. I hope that you don't feel piled on when we try and let you know how we see you. You deserve to have joy and love and happiness and a big part of it is just accepting that you really do deserve it. Maybe try and pick something fun to do this weekend no matter what responsibilities are on the list. Taking care of yourself is on the list too.
Hugs for you, Gud. I would send you a kitten or puppy to snuggle if I could.
Gud, we're here for you, and you don't need to apologize.
Yeah Gud, we're here for you whether you need reassurance or just somewhere you can vent.
