Oh, Teppy, he sounds a bit like my mom. The last chemo she had, a few years ago, wreaked havoc on her balance and she is getting pretty frail physically, too. She will not use canes or anything. She has learned to navigate stairs despite her balance and frailness because she has to go upstairs to sleep every night. She has one hand on each banister and stops for a rest on the landing. It's slow, but she does it.
She only goes out when she has someone to hang onto for balance. And she claims she walks faster than her friends, but she is sloooooow. If we have to go anywhere that someone has to walk more than, say, half a block, we get a wheelchair and plop her in it. And getting her in and out of a car is quite the workout.
If you BiL wants his dad there so badly (and I can't blame him for that) he should practice with him NOW and ascertain if his help can make it possible for your FiL to actually get around. If so, he should be on call to help your dad get up and down those stairs every single day. Just HOPING it will work out once dad gets there is silly.
he should practice with him NOW and ascertain if his help can make it possible for your FiL to actually get around.
We leave Friday morning, so there's no time for practice.
Just HOPING it will work out once dad gets there is silly.
Also dangerous.
Timelies all!
Steph, I'm sorry Middle Brother is being so ridiculous about this.
If you BiL wants his dad there so badly (and I can't blame him for that) he should practice with him NOW and ascertain if his help can make it possible for your FiL to actually get around. If so, he should be on call to help your dad get up and down those stairs every single day. Just HOPING it will work out once dad gets there is silly.
I'd agree with that IF FiL was interested in going. He seems pretty clear on that, so it seems like more pushing him around under the circumstances.
Okay. It sounds like Tim's dad gave Middle Brother an earful and Middle Brother has accepted that their dad is not going. Good lord.
Also -- I couldn't make this up if I tried -- the person on FB who posted asking for a "back doctor" posted again and said "I asked for recommendations for a back doctor, not a spinal specialist. Can anyone recommend a back doctor to me???"
I have not replied.
Put up a post requesting a front doctor.
"I asked for recommendations for a back doctor, not a spinal specialist. Can anyone recommend a back doctor to me???"
Maybe they think they have a sprain? Like, they think it's muscular rather than nerve/spine related? I'm just spit-balling here, because the other alternative is that she's an idiot.
Glad to hear your Middle BIL got shut down, Tep. Dragging your FIL on that trip sounds like it would have been a nightmare for him and everyone else.
I got an award today! A Big Big Boss was here from HQ and so they took the opportunity to give some awards, and my boss nominated me, and so I got a coin! Which is pretty cool, even if it's not worth much in dollars.