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Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
In an attempt to not completely alienate my Trumpster friends
You're way more open minded then me. I don't think I could consider anybody supporting Trump to be a friend. He's not just the presumptive Republican candidate (which I could handle) - he's a genuinely dangerous man.
We are leaving for France in two weeks, a trip we've saved for for two years and I've dreamed of since I was in 7th grade.
Current events in France:
...ok, then.
But it's ALL GOING TO BE GOOD. Because vacation! France! And 2016 owes us.
Tippy- I can understand them bullying him IF he always has a fantastic time on vacation and will be very sad to miss it. it's still disrespectful behavior, but in that case the motivation makes sense. If that's the case and if they want to bully him--then they certainly have to drive him. I can see why you are angry, though! I would be.
I can understand them bullying him IF he always has a fantastic time on vacation and will be very sad to miss it.
He enjoys being with the family regardless of the setting -- but he also is intolerable on the car ride to the beach and back; he's fussy and out of sorts the whole week because things are different from his house; he can't walk up and down stairs any more (and this house has 3 flights of stairs); and he complains the whole time about everything. The last time we all went to Topsail, he didn't even come down from the house to the actual beach part one time the whole week (largely, I think, because he can't walk up and down stairs any more).
So I'm not sure "fantastic time" is the right phrase. It's more like "basically happy to be around family but grudgingly tolerates everything else and complains until he gets what he wants."
So I'm not sure "fantastic time" is the right phrase. It's more like "basically happy to be around family but grudgingly tolerates everything else and complains until he gets what he wants."
Most of my family members are like that...including a couple of the younger ones. Sometimes they want to be with the rest of us anyway, and sometimes they don't. If he's saying he doesn't want to go, I think they should listen to him.
Man, my family is a delightful bunch. No wonder I'm an introvert; it's self-defense.
And frankly, even if I would enjoy the situation once I was there, being forced into it would just make me sullen and determined not to enjoy myself.
Yeah, his reasons for not wanting to go sound eminently sensible to me. If the in-laws want to spend family time with him on their vacation, they can visit his home or plan an outing to somewhere that won't involve taking an elderly man on an uncomfortably long drive to a place with stairs he can't climb.
We've pretty much abandoned my plan for my parents' 55th anniversary this fall because the 4-hour drive to St. Louis might be too hard on my dad. (And difficulties with navigating his wheelchair at the recent family wedding's outdoor venue will have reinforced his reluctance to go anywhere, though there would be elevators and ADA compatible rooms at the hotel I had picked out.)
JFC, apparently one of my best friends at work got fired. I mean, she no longer works here as of yesterday, so. I can imagine her shooting her mouth off in the wrong way to the wrong people, but she was really excited about our new boss coming in a few weeks. And she REALLY knows how to do her job. Fuuuuuuck.
he can't walk up and down stairs any more (and this house has 3 flights of stairs);
Yeah, that's really not okay. I can fully understand why he doesn't want to go.
The Fitbit thing I'm iffy on. If the intent/result is more bullying about exercise or calling him out if he says he's walking more than it is, then I'm with you Steph.
But it would actually be helpful with my dad to have a way to just check in and make sure that he is, in fact, moving. My sister and I have talked about putting Find my iPhone on his phone and linking it to ours. But he's got a) some heart and other health issues ongoing and b) a tendency to leave his phone where he can't hear it when we call to check in.
Also I think my dad would not much care if we did either of these anyway, which also makes a big difference. I don't get the idea Tim's dad would like it at all.
Ugh Jesse, that's a bummer
I don't know all the details, but this is not a staff that does that for no purpose. It had to do with other threats that he had made. Parents also came and we've had to deal with other DCFS type stuff. The whole thing is just so sad.
Oo, that's different. Poor kid.