Liese, thank you.

Liese, thank you, and mad respect. I see a LOT of myself in that post and working on changing some of the less than stellar behaviors is one of the hardest things I've ever done. I feel a little less alone now. Much love.

Liese, thank you so much for sharing that. It means a lot.

I've had to do a lot of work to let go of perfectionism, because it was doing me zero good. Also taking more ownership over my own actions and what I can control, and doing my best to let go of things I can't control. I meditate to practice being calm so that I can take a moment and not react defensively or disrespectfully. I'm still a jerk in my head a lot of the time, but I'm not as much of a jerk as I used to be, so work in progress.

Thanks very much for being brave enough to post that in order to offer a friend perspective, Liese.

If you don't get something done, or if you do something she disagrees with, she decides that it's because you're intentionally trying to hurt or upset her.

Oh, dear lord, that haunted the first years of my marriage. Given I only had Hubby's word for it, but his ex seems to have been that kind of manipulative (given she'd gone through 4 husbands in a pattern of "marry him, get pregnant, divorce him and get support", no, really 4 times, there may have been pre-meditation). But eventually, enough repetitions of "Why would I intentionally want to hurt you?" got through to him. Mostly.

Liese, that was very brave of you. Thank you for sharing your perspective.

Gud, because it should be repeated: you're a good, worthwhile person. Please take care of yourself.

Gud, listen to Liese, she is wise.

Liese, thank you so much for that.

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Liese, that took an enormous amount of courage, and an equal amount of love, to share it with someone in hopes it would help. Thank you.

On the pill front, one of mine needs to be taken first thing in the morning on an empty stomach, an hour before I eat. If I'm up before the alarm, I'll take it and go back to bed until the alarm. But I leave the bottle on the vanity counter, because it being there means "You took this already." If it's not there, I'll just take the medication again, and then wait another hour for breakfast. Bottle in plain sight on the countertop works.

I take morning meds and evening meds, two of them both morning and evening. I keep morning meds in the side table drawer and when I sit for breakfast I'll put them in the sake cup by my place. When I go dress, I take the (now empty) cup to the bathroom and put in the evening meds, and bring the cup back to the side table, and add the second dose of the two, so all the pills are ready for after the evening meal.

DH does much the same thing, but he uses two stainless steel cups from the kitchen store, meant to hold salt and crushed garlic, etc. The cups are slightly different shapes, one for morning meds and one for evening. If we travel, or will be out at a pill-taking meal time, we do have traveling pillboxes for one dose of meds.

Thank you, Liese, that was a very brave thing to do.

I think I need to stop talking about this now. I'm ending up painting DW in a bad light and that isn't fair, like I said before, she really is a good person. Most of the problems are probably mostly my fault anyhow, I just needed to vent because things are hard right now, but that probably wasn't the right thing to do.