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A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.
Allyson, when I lost my beloved Liz on Pan Am 103, I felt spectacularly unqualified to be the one to go to Lockerbie. But, the family needed me to.
One foot in front of the other. One task at a time. One thought after the next. All with an eye to making sure to take care of yourself.
All the stuff everyone else says. They say it because it is true.
You are qualified because you exist, and because ita trusted you.
That is all there is to it.
Allyson, hugs. You're doing what you can and that is amazing.
And I would be happy to help contribute to a book or family travel or whatever. I met her sister years ago, and she was pretty darn fabulous. Can't even imagine her parents. ;)
That "have a wake" exchange is amazing and sad and happy all together.
Further down that same COMM page was this (bt gets the zinger, but it's so very ita):
On Laser Tag
NoiseDesign: Any chance we'll be able to tempt you to come out and play?
ita: I've only played it once. It was good fun. Not healthy fun for me, since I got scary competitive, but that's something I hope I've worked on since then. Jury's still out.
billytea: Wow. Just how competitive did you get?
I wanted to wear something in her honour ("u" for ita) and after rejecting several things that weren't quite right, I thought of my Clinique Black Honey lipstick. Amazing lipstick that I wouldn't have found if not for ita telling of its magical property of looking good on everyone.
I am trying to shift my feelings toward being happy that I knew her and appreciating her general awesomeness and these COMMs are helping.
That "have a wake" exchange is amazing and sad and happy all together.
That was wonderful. Thank you again for sharing, Allyson.
Thinking of you all.
And I wanted to make sure that those who loved her dearly saw this, from J. August.
I remember seeing the squealing when he mentioned her on Tim's Facebook. ita gave off such a cool vibe, so knowing about her fondness for J. always tickled me.
Aww, dang.
How was she so wrong about Weetabix? I just had a small meltdown about not having told her that a week or two ago.
Monique - that just rocks.
And I wanted to make sure that those who loved her dearly saw this, from J. August.
Wow. Just, wow.
And more tears.
I am grateful that my family and friends locally all knew I was a Buffista. They all knew about me going to the F2Fs and having my on line friends visit. It is easier to not have to explain my grief.