She had a grueling chronic pain condition, but it doesn't have her. Not any more.
Yes.
Inara: Mal, this isn't the ancient sea. You don't have to go down with your ship. Mal: She ain't going down. She ain't going anywhere.
'Out Of Gas'
ita's thread
A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.
Steph L. - Jan 13, 2015 9:06:51 am PST #23 of 3145
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated
DavidS - Jan 13, 2015 9:07:49 am PST #24 of 3145
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Maria - Jan 13, 2015 9:09:55 am PST #25 of 3145
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
Brought over from Natter, because it should be here too.
I don't think she'd mind if I shared this with you now. Because it's so very applicable again.
I know you're inundated with both missives and emotions right now, so don't feel for any reason that you have to respond to this. I thought I'd wait a day or few so it didn't feel like more of more pressure.
I just want to you know what while you can't help what you feel, *I* want to help what you feel. I want you not to feel responsible, and I want you not to feel like you're alone. As long as part of your brain can hold that knowledge for when you have more emotional ability to handle it.
That you're incredibly loved, incredibly supported, and that we're all here for you. I wish so much I could be close enough to you to hug you if you're accepting those, or just make you hot drinks if that's what works best. Whatever you need.
Take care of yourself, Maria, and let the people around you take care of you too. Do as little as you can get by doing, and feel whatever you need to.
Later, sweetie.
ita.
I'm going to follow her advice yet again. She was an incredible human being. I'm glad we're taking care of each other.
le nubian - Jan 13, 2015 9:10:05 am PST #26 of 3145
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
Thank you for posting that Hec.
Nora Deirdre - Jan 13, 2015 9:15:00 am PST #27 of 3145
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
Thank you for linking the i09 thread, David.
Consuela - Jan 13, 2015 9:18:15 am PST #28 of 3145
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
Omg I love the picspam of crying Winchesters. So appropriate.
DCJensen - Jan 13, 2015 9:20:36 am PST #29 of 3145
All is well that ends in pizza.
Can I have my depression back? I keep tearing up when Andi does.
I'd rather have the numbness of depression back.
And ita.
Mostly ita.
Glamcookie - Jan 13, 2015 9:23:41 am PST #30 of 3145
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
Hope it's okay, I wanted David's post in COMM here, too:
Saw this from ita in the Bureaucracy thread. I know how thwarted she felt by her health issues, but this line made me feel a tiny bit better. She knew what a beautiful thing she had made. She knew its worth and value. An amazing legacy in itself, for all the other worlds she didn't get to conquer.
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ita: Oh, we are so not a CMS. Hand-stitched from the deepest layer.
DXMachina - Jan 13, 2015 9:24:36 am PST #31 of 3145
You always do this. We get tipsy, and you take advantage of my love of the scientific method.
There should be an ita archive so if accounts get closed, it is not lost.
One of the things I thought of after I heard the news was the table of ASCII and HTML entities that she kept up on her domain that I bookmarked years ago because it was just so damn useful. I still use it to this day (last Saturday, in fact).
Calli - Jan 13, 2015 9:26:49 am PST #32 of 3145
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
I love the idea of archiving ita's work. Please let me know if there's anything I can do to help with that.
It sounds odd, but one thing I liked was disagreeing with ita. It didn't happen often, but when it did we could argue things out in a straightforward but civil way. I tend to avoid conflict because I worry about losing friends. But I had the impression that ita welcomed the exchange of differing ideas, as long as The Stupid didn't get too thick. It was something I miss about my dad, and it's something I'm going to miss about ita, too.