I'm just trying to tell you that we have nothing in common besides both of us liking your penis.

Anya ,'Dirty Girls'


ita's thread

A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.


Matt the Bruins fan - Jan 05, 2016 6:33:00 am PST #2297 of 3157
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand

Oh man, the ita quote on that floating lantern made me tear up at work. Leave it to her to come up with the perfect thing to say for her own memorial!


Lee - Jan 05, 2016 6:56:39 am PST #2298 of 3157
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.

Okay, Sue's photo has been added to Flickr, and I will send it to ita's sister.

Anyone else I missed?


Sue - Jan 05, 2016 7:23:11 am PST #2299 of 3157
hip deep in pie

Thanks Lee!


Kiba Rika - Jan 05, 2016 8:46:52 am PST #2300 of 3157
I may have to seize the cat.

Oh, my. How great would it be to correct that pronunciation, if only in one performance?

I don't think this show will be recorded, but we should do another one (as soon as in a couple of weeks, but maybe more like in a month or two) and I will try to work it in.


-t - Jan 05, 2016 8:57:24 am PST #2301 of 3157
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Even if it's just that one time on stage, knowing that would make me happy.


Una - Jan 05, 2016 9:58:20 am PST #2302 of 3157
when i die, please bake my ashes into a brick and use me to hit fascists.

Wore my black and pink-glitter Batman panties.

You're just gonna have to trust me without photographic evidence ;-)


-t - Jan 05, 2016 10:11:38 am PST #2303 of 3157
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

That was my first choice, too, but they were in the laundry, so I went with Wonder Woman.


Nilly - Jan 05, 2016 10:57:19 am PST #2304 of 3157
Swouncing

Lee, insent (I hope I've been true to the whole idea - I've only managed to skim, not nearly enough).

I wasn't accurate with the schedule, because of the different timezones, but I managed to mention "The Princess Bride" in one of the classes I taught today. It wasn't exactly in context ("Harry Potter" I did actualy manage to tie into the specific topic we were covering, though). A couple of the students even knew what I was talking about (most of them are in their early twenties, so born way after the movie was first released, but it has enough of a cult-movie status in Israel to still be recognized, apparently), and I will not be surprised if a couple more will actually check it out.

Oh, and I mentioned Euler's equation, in some other context, in that same class (it's probably my favorite, of all the ones I teach this semester, but it wasn't on purpose). I would have done it anyway, it was totally in context (though, not exactly the topic of the class, but still. A completely relevant tangent. No, really. I sometimes actually know how to do that, too), but the minute I did, it completely fit. ita referred to it, on several of her posts, as the most beautiful mathematic equation. And regardless of "who's the most" question, I definitely agree and think it's one of the most beautiful mathematical expressions I've ever encountered.

I can't believe how *present* she is in my life, especially when considering I've only been lucky enough to meet her just the once, and didn't get to interact with her online nearly as much as I wasnted to, especially in recent years. It's not because if it being today that mentioning Euler's equation brought her into my mind. Ever since we got to talk about it her on b.org, it's always connected to her in my mind, and that's just the one example.

It's true for many of you, of course. I post so little lately, that it seems strange to even write this, but just like with any good friend, a person can become interwoven in your life, even through the passage of time and the lack of current communication. I think of references to conversations here so often (the DH hears way more often than makes sense "a friend of mine from the USA said" and he knows that it's "a friend of mine from b.org" without me needing to even mention it, most of the times). It is so so true for her.

I mention a list of people, every day, in my prayers, and wish them health. Some of them are Buffistas. I try, for almost a year now, not to mention her name. I can't. It refuses to leave my list. I have to take people's names off that list all the time. My father is law was there (he passed away four years ago), my own father (who passed away 2.5 years ago) as well. It was difficult and painful and needing-to-let-go, and gradually I managed to do it, not just in pronouncing the names with my lips, but also in thinking about them in my heart. I still wasn't able to let go of ita's name in that list. She's still there. I didn't even try to omit Ginger's name. I figure, G-d will know what to do with those prayers, direct them to the right place, either with the actual persons involved, or a place they'd approve of. It's probably more about me and my lack - still - of dealing with their deaths, but part of that not-dealing-now, or even can't-deal-now is not questioning that, as well, in and of itself, I guess.

I'm just - I can't even explain well enough the difference (I did try once, in Nilly "ita's thread" May 12, 2015 8:00:17 am PDT ). Sorry.

I had a sad combination of laundry schedule combined with accidents concerning yogurt-for-Pi++Toddler's dinner and soup-for-PiBoy's-lunch that ended up in nothing pink for me to have my picture taken with it, but I took a picture of PiBoy dressing up as me in my black coat (and hat), and of Pi++Toddler in her pink (with polka dots!) coat.


Lee - Jan 05, 2016 11:05:11 am PST #2305 of 3157
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.

Thank you, Nilly. I sent them to ita's sister, and added them to Flickr.


Kat - Jan 05, 2016 2:02:07 pm PST #2306 of 3157
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo

Nilly, maybe you aren't ready to let go because it's not time yet, for whatever reason. And perhaps that's okay. It's like a tuning fork or a bell. Some people resonate with us for so long that even when they are gone, we can still feel their vibrations like tiny ripples of remembrances. Other people were such a big part of our life, so omnipresent that it's easier to let go because their resonance surrounded us for so long.

This is a crappy metaphor.

I mean to say, we feel how we feel and we need to learn to sit that for as long as we need to.