Death is your art. You make it with your hands day after day. That final gasp, that look of peace. And part of you is desperate to know: What's it like? Where does it lead you? And now you see, that's the secret. Not the punch you didn't throw or the kicks you didn't land. She really wanted it. Every Slayer has a death wish. Even you.

Spike ,'Conversations with Dead People'


ita's thread

A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.


DavidS - Jan 13, 2015 4:55:26 pm PST #210 of 3153
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

I've talked to Gudanov, so he knows.


TomW - Jan 13, 2015 5:00:39 pm PST #211 of 3153
"The fact that we live at the bottom of a deep gravity well, on the surface of a gas covered planet going around a nuclear fireball 90 million miles away and think this to be normal is obviously some indication of how skewed our perspective tends to be."

I have started a post and failed to finish many times. Five beers and I'm almost brave enough to say things, but not quite.

I had not interacted with ita for a long time, but she has always loomed large in my mental landscape. She always will.


Amy - Jan 13, 2015 5:08:23 pm PST #212 of 3153
Because books.

There is just a big hole. An empty space where she should be.

This.


smonster - Jan 13, 2015 5:08:32 pm PST #213 of 3153
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

Hi Tom! Hi!

...oh wait, you're right there. (I'm with Nora and Tom. That may have been said in this thread already. I may be drinking wine from a pink cup.)


Maria - Jan 13, 2015 5:09:12 pm PST #214 of 3153
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift

{{{Tom}}} Much love to you and Nora and Sarah. I'm glad you're all together tonight.


Kalshane - Jan 13, 2015 5:16:55 pm PST #215 of 3153
GS: If you had to choose between kicking evil in the head or the behind, which would you choose, and why? Minsc: I'm not sure I understand the question. I have two feet, do I not? You do not take a small plate when the feast of evil welcomes seconds.

I don't have any specific ita stories, but I loved her willingness to engage with anyone and everyone, to challenge when necessary but also make them feel like part of the community.

Reading the threads over at IO9 it's striking to see that she was just as much an integral presence there as she was here. I guess it shouldn't unexpected, knowing what he know about her, but it's still awe-inspiring to see just how many lives she managed to touch.


sj - Jan 13, 2015 5:21:34 pm PST #216 of 3153
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

I keep thinking how much less fun it is going to be to watch the next season of Teen Wolf without knowing what ita thinks of it.


Typo Boy - Jan 13, 2015 5:22:14 pm PST #217 of 3153
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.

I've been bursting into sobs at random moments throughout the day. Finally decided I needed to do something in ita's honor. Given that I sprained my hip putting on a sock, and tore a rotater cuff in my sleep, Krav, Kettle bell and Capoeira all seemed impractical. So I started a Tai Chi class today. Don't know that it was what ita would have wanted, but it is something. And if nothing else, once I get good enough, I'll be able to defend myself if I'm ever attacked by slow motion ninjas.


Alibelle - Jan 13, 2015 5:26:16 pm PST #218 of 3153
Apart from sports, "my secret favorite thing on earth is ketchup. I will put ketchup on anything. But it has to be Heinz." - my husband, Michael Vartan

For some reason, I'm actually really surprised at all these memories of intimidating/challenging disagreements because I don't remember ever disagreeing with her. But then I remember that she literally created the Pink Gingham Junta because she wanted to lead a junta, and thus required a nemesis, so she nominated me for the position (I wasn't given a say so), which is why it went from the "junta I want to start," to the more tailored "Pink Gingham Junta" because Alibelle.

And yet, every time she threatened to break my thumbs, it just felt like a warm hug, you know? Which sounds weird. But it really was a very loving experience to be ita's chosen fair weather nemesis for those times when she was bored, I swear.

And thanks for thinking of me, Brenda! (And thanks, Tom!)


Anne W. - Jan 13, 2015 5:26:33 pm PST #219 of 3153
The lost sheep grow teeth, forsake their lambs, and lie with the lions.

I will need to draw something in her memory. I don't know what, yet. But it will happen.