I'm so glad everyone is posting and I hate the reason for it.
This. I'm smiling and laughing till I remember the reason for this thread, these stories. Oh, ita.
Thank you for all of sharing the stories and posting here.
Willow: You know what they say. The bigger they are... Anya: The faster they stomp you into nothin'.
'The Killer In Me'
ita's thread
A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.
Shir - Jan 13, 2015 12:40:04 pm PST #132 of 3153
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
Frankenbuddha - Jan 13, 2015 12:48:08 pm PST #133 of 3153
"We are the Goon Squad and we're coming to town...Beep! Beep!" - David Bowie, "Fashion"
RIP ita. Just read the news (was wondering why Natter had exploded with posts; never thought it would be this).
Can't process at the moment.
Java cat - Jan 13, 2015 1:03:05 pm PST #134 of 3153
Not javachik
Victor and Lea? eta left a message at Victor's FB. Joe Boucher?
askye - Jan 13, 2015 1:04:49 pm PST #135 of 3153
Thrive to spite them
I've been a mess all day. I called in late at work and got there and just. I tried to explain the relationship and went with friend. Which isn't really accurate. I mean there's no word for "a person who you've met online, but never in person, and interact with in some way on an almost daily basis and has had a profound impact on your life."
That's who she is.
I found her intimidating at times. She was passionate and fierce and challenging but she wasn't an unkind person. It took me a long time to realize the challenging was who she was and it wasn't done out of unkindness.
amych - Jan 13, 2015 1:05:33 pm PST #136 of 3153
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?
there's no word for "a person who you've met online, but never in person, and interact with in some way on an almost daily basis and has had a profound impact on your life."
"Friend"
Nilly - Jan 13, 2015 1:07:23 pm PST #137 of 3153
Swouncing
I mean there's no word for "a person who you've met online, but never in person, and interact with in some way on an almost daily basis and has had a profound impact on your life."
Oh, but of course there is: friend. Just like you said.
[Edit: x-post with amych, who said it faster and better.]
Dana - Jan 13, 2015 1:08:06 pm PST #138 of 3153
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."
Victor posted on FB.
meara - Jan 13, 2015 1:14:42 pm PST #139 of 3153
You guys, I dirty-danced with ita at girlbar back in the day and it was GLORIOUS.
Oh man. Good times.
Thank you Allyson. Thank you Polgara. Thank you Maria for sharing her words to you.
shrift - Jan 13, 2015 1:23:10 pm PST #140 of 3153
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
I kept trying to compose a post, and then the browser would reload on me on the tablet and I'd lose my words, which is something I would have griped about to ita because ita knew her tablets.
I made it through half the day at work after Dana texted me this morning, and then I shuffled home early to put on my pajamas and take out my contacts, and cry.
I didn't see ita in person very often after she got the hell out of Michigan, but I'm glad I drove across the state to hang out with her while she was there. I'm pretty sure that the first time I met ita, I was with Dana at a La Femme Nikita convention. ita had a boss-ass cane because she'd hurt her knee doing capoeira. She set the impossibly cool bar really high.
I don't know how to deal with the fact that I won't get to read her complaints about ScarJo not being able to do action when the new Avengers movie comes out.
Ginger - Jan 13, 2015 1:25:17 pm PST #141 of 3153
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
Several people have said something to the effect that they don't have a right to feel the amount of grief they feel. There have been very few days in 12+ years that I haven't thought about ita, read something she wrote or tried to answer her challenge to something I wrote. I can't say that about relatives or f2f friends. I know that's true for most of you. How can we not grieve?