That is a very core sense of ita that I have from my interactions with her.

Which is exactly why you should have it.

I like many of the things posted, but I want them to go to someone for whom they have greater meaning than "something owned by someone I loved".

Thank you so much to Polgara for the beautiful brunch and memorial. It was so perfect, and jst flawlessly done. I know how hard this was and you made it look so warm and effortless.

Brunch was completely heartbreaking and utterly wonderful and perfect, and Polgara, Allyson, Burrell, Kristen and all the others involved in coordinating it outdid themselves. ita's family are amazing people; I'm so grateful for having been able to thank them for sharing her with us.

This isn't something we need to decide now, but I'd like to share something that I've been feeling a lot today. There's been talk of having a second memorial service so others could come into town and celebrate her life, especially Buffistas from afar, and initially mid-February had been tossed out. But I think the LAistas who have been immersed in this so deeply need some time. They have been endless sources of strength and love for ita and her family over the past two weeks while also dealing with their own grief, and I can see how difficult it has been for them. I wonder if perhaps we could have a gathering this summer -- maybe in July -- for Buffistas who want to come to LA to meet and celebrate ita's life. I know Polgara said she can't imagine coordinating anything else right now, and I'm happy to take it on if it would help. Not a F2F with all the requisite silliness and debauchery, but a weekend for people to gather to share stories and maybe light some candles on the beach. That might give people who want to come but can't swing travel on short notice a chance to plan and save.

Anyway, I wanted to throw that idea out there.

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JZ, I think that's an excellent idea provided ita's family agrees.

We figured out how sending ita's stuff to people is going to happen, which is that one of the LAistas is going to put them all in a box and send them to me, and then I will distribute them. I probably won't be able to sort things out today but I will in the next few days and then I will be in touch with some of you to get addresses.

I think that's a great idea, honestly. It gives Polgara and Burrell and Kristen and Allyson a time to rest and grieve, and it gives time for people to plan around it.

I would be interested in possibly attending such a gathering. I don't know how much help I could be, but if there's anything I could do to be useful, I'd be happy to pitch in.

Lee, thanks for taking that on. I love the dragonfly necklace and will cherish it.

I think that's a great idea, honestly. It gives Polgara and Burrell and Kristen and Allyson a time to rest and grieve, and it gives time for people to plan around it.

Yes!

JZ, I think that's an excellent idea provided ita's family agrees.

This, too.

JZ, that is a great idea, if her family agrees. If it helps, I know someone who's pretty well-known in health journalism, and I could ask for ideas on what we should do with the information.