Happy Birthday, Lee!
I, for one, wasn't looking forward to starting my day with a slaughter. Which, really, just goes to show how much I've grown
Anya ,'Sleeper'
Natter 73: Chuck Norris only wishes he could Natter
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Fred Pete - Sep 17, 2014 7:34:36 am PDT #6368 of 30000
Ann, that's a ferret.
Strix - Sep 17, 2014 7:50:53 am PDT #6369 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
What Tep and -t said. They are wise.
beth b - Sep 17, 2014 7:51:24 am PDT #6370 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
You know the are other ways to be, so you are ahead, Tom. I hope you find ways to trust yourself soon.
Happy birthday ,lee
-t - Sep 17, 2014 7:59:01 am PDT #6371 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
The guy we had the babyshower for last week brought in blueberry scones as a "thank you" (we can totally get stuck in an endless cycle of gratitude with people making treats because they got treats. As endless cycles go, it's not a bad one) so I am having a blueberry scone with my tea.
I can't judge its emotional maturity.
Scrappy - Sep 17, 2014 8:07:04 am PDT #6372 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Tom, what Teppy said. I love my parents, but they were active alcoholics when I was a kid and that sucked A LOT. I had a LOT of anger built-up and it took me a long time to be able to express. During therapy, I regularly had dreams of murdering them, which was scary as hell. However, my therapist kept reminding me that feelings aren't actions. I didn't have to control my feelings, just my actions. So I needed to let myself feel the rage and disappointment and whatever else came up. I didn't have to tell them, or anyone, really, unless I felt it was necessary. Learning to feel my feelings, rather than to judge, repress and/or fight them was the main benefit I got from my years of therapy--and it was HUGE.
Atropa - Sep 17, 2014 8:27:28 am PDT #6373 of 30000
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
Happy birthday, Lee!
Atropa - Sep 17, 2014 8:27:58 am PDT #6374 of 30000
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
Tom, what Teppy said about parents and anger is so, SO true.
Steph L. - Sep 17, 2014 8:32:22 am PDT #6375 of 30000
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
And sometimes I wonder, well, I'm 43 -- how long should I feel angry about X, Y, or Z that my parents did 30 years ago? And the answer is: if anger comes back up, it comes back up. And I feel it, and sometimes get annoyed with myself for still having those feelings, but it happens. Smashing it down doesn't help. And feeling it won't lay waste to the world. (Which is both good and bad. Good because I don't actually want to destroy the world [all my stuff is here], and bad, because if I DON'T destroy the world with my raaaage, that must prove my anger isn't "legitimate." Oh yeah, I am so fucking mentally healthy.)
-t - Sep 17, 2014 8:33:27 am PDT #6376 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Random: I'm pleased to see a Miss America with a last name that ends in "v". Maybe more pleased that I haven't seen anyone else commenting on it (although there is an awful lot out there I don't see, of course, and I'm not exactly looking).
Tom Scola - Sep 17, 2014 8:41:34 am PDT #6377 of 30000
Remember that the frontier of the Rebellion is everywhere. And even the smallest act of insurrection pushes our lines forward.
if I DON'T destroy the world with my raaaage, that must prove my anger isn't "legitimate."
Oh, my God, so much this.