I just feel like I can't quit. Because they'll have to find a replacement, and it was hard enough to con me into doing it. And if they can't find a replacement, then they won't be able to have a library for the members. (WHO NEVER RETURN BOOKS.)
Well. Then they won't be able to have a library. It's not your responsibility to ensure they do have one. It
is
your right to feel safe, and it's your right to decide how to allocate your time.
If the library subsequently folds, it's on them. Your impact on the situation was to keep it running for longer than it otherwise would have.
Between the chair's response and you actually being faced with intimidating and/or crazy people in the past, I'd say they're lucky if you notify them you're quitting rather than just not showing up and letting them figure it out.
I just realized that having a grapevine probably means I can make stuffed grape leaves. In fact, I am probably obligated to.
Here's your dumb question of the day: are grape leaves actually edible, or are they just used to wrap up the edible stuff?
Edible and tasty!
[Oh god, volunteer chair has emailed me 3 more times -- in the past couple of hours -- since I said "I am working late tonight I can't run out a list for you of the books" to try to get me to run out a list of the books. All of my replies were polite and yet indicating that I HAVE WORKED PAST 11 EVERY NIGHT THIS WEEK so no, I can't just jump when you say jump. So the most recent email said "Call me at 10 p.m. and I can talk you through it."
Is this where I get to stop being polite and say "I guess I didn't make it clear enough the first 3 times I said I am working UNTIL 11 TONIGHT, but NO I AM NOT YOUR LACKEY AND I CANNOT GIVE YOU A LIST JUST BECAUSE YOU WANT IT RIGHT NOW SO FUCK THE HELL OFF"?]
Tim heard me yelling at the email and said "Tell her I'll call her and she can walk me through it." Which is sweet, but I hate capitulating to people who think they own your time.
Hmm. This is definitely confirming that my desire to quit is the right idea.
I would ignore the emails, you've already answered her questions. She is also abusing you. You don't need to put up with it.
At this point, I would be tempted to respond something like, "This is a volunteer position, and I cannot be expected to prioritize it over the paid job that has kept me working until 11 at night every night this week. At this point, I think it would be best if you found someone else to manage the library. In order to give you enough time to find someone else, I won't step down until the end of September. Meanwhile, I will get you that list of books as soon as I have time, and right now I don't know when that will be."
Oh, hell no, Steph. She'll "walk you through it"? Like the problem here is that you don't quite understand? She is taking advantage of you and being rude and deliberately obtuse. I don't normally advocate just walking out on jobs, even volunteer positions, but at this point I'd be gone.
