That's a fine thing to want to work on, JZ, but there's no timetable for it. And I think "love your enemy" goes for the parts of yourself you don't like as well as other people, for what that's worth.
All right, no one's killing folk today, on account of our very tight schedule.
Mal ,'Trash'
Natter 73: Chuck Norris only wishes he could Natter
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
-t - Jun 19, 2015 8:52:34 am PDT #29079 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
shrift - Jun 19, 2015 8:59:55 am PDT #29080 of 30000
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
Hippo birdies to Plei!
It turns out that the recruiter was waiting for me to contact her even though she said she'd contact me. Okay! I'm glad I sent her an email yesterday, because I would like to get details on start dates and such so I can plan out the next few months of my life.
That piece of me is fairly shitty and poisonous -- she's responding to real and vile harm, but she's still poison.
That part is so hard. Righteous anger feels so good in the moment but you can't make it your precious.
-t - Jun 19, 2015 9:07:37 am PDT #29081 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Man, catching up on emails from yesterday afternoon tricked me into thinking it was much later in the day than it actually is.
WindSparrow - Jun 19, 2015 9:09:23 am PDT #29082 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Happy birthday, Plei!
Burrell - Jun 19, 2015 10:00:52 am PDT #29083 of 30000
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
happy birthday, Plei!
tommyrot - Jun 19, 2015 10:27:22 am PDT #29084 of 30000
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.
Birthday Happies, Plei!
EpicTangent - Jun 19, 2015 10:28:06 am PDT #29085 of 30000
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty
Super Happy Birthday, Plei!
Consuela - Jun 19, 2015 10:28:48 am PDT #29086 of 30000
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
Happy birthday, Plei!
It's been my experience that hanging on to anger and resentment does me little good, and doesn't hurt the other person at all: if they're sufficiently toxic, they'll think it's funny I'm spending so much emotional energy on them. And if they're just oblivious, it won't mean anything at all to them.
But it is hella hard to turn away from that anger and spend my emotional energy in other ways, better ways. Living well is -- well, it's not effective revenge, because it assumes the other person cares one way or another (and I don't think they do). But it's the best thing for me, anyway. Really, the best I have managed is to move my life away from those situations, and let myself forget about them. It's not been a conscious thing.
I hope you can find your way to peace with it, JZ. That's a tough situation, and it must be so hard to have pity for someone who treated you so badly. But it shows that you are a better person than she is, because you actually care about other people and things like justice and kindness.
flea - Jun 19, 2015 11:05:56 am PDT #29087 of 30000
information libertarian
Someone got thrown out of the library this morning for taking off her bra and throwing it at another patron.
Never a dull moment.
flea - Jun 19, 2015 11:08:28 am PDT #29088 of 30000
information libertarian
Clarification: she was thrown out for refusing to put on her shirt.
She took off her bra and threw it at a passerby while hanging out (um, literally) in the courtyard outside the library.
Mental health services were contacted.