Doesn't winter seem more like archiving season?

Willow ,'Lessons'


Natter 73: Chuck Norris only wishes he could Natter  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Jesse - Mar 26, 2015 7:08:23 am PDT #23006 of 30000
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

I'm not really afraid of asking but I don't want to price myself out too early. I'd actually be willing to take less than I make now, if I thought the position was worth it. But I don't want to undersell myself either.

In a letter, I've said something like, "I'm interested in a salary in the range of X-Y, but am glad to discuss in more detail." You can put X close to your current salary, if you'd be willing. Or honestly, just skip it!

I'm having tortellini from Panera for lunch, and I'm a little afraid it's not going to be satisfying, even though it's got plenty of calories! Hmph.


Matt the Bruins fan - Mar 26, 2015 7:35:34 am PDT #23007 of 30000
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand

I have been ravenous all morning and exercising my willpower to avoid eating lunch way too soon.


Jesse - Mar 26, 2015 7:37:45 am PDT #23008 of 30000
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

Now I feel overly full, so I guess it was plenty!


shrift - Mar 26, 2015 7:38:06 am PDT #23009 of 30000
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty

Aaaaand now I can't get lunch at noon because they need me to join a meeting. Edit: The worst part about this meeting is that I'm 99.99% certain they need to be talking to someone else.

I thought I would make it through today without threatening to cut someone, but I see that was foolhardy.


Jesse - Mar 26, 2015 7:54:04 am PDT #23010 of 30000
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

FYI, writing someone's review is almost as painful as writing your own.


brenda m - Mar 26, 2015 8:02:37 am PDT #23011 of 30000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there

Truth.


lisah - Mar 26, 2015 8:04:28 am PDT #23012 of 30000
Punishingly Intricate

In a letter, I've said something like, "I'm interested in a salary in the range of X-Y, but am glad to discuss in more detail." You can put X close to your current salary, if you'd be willing.

That's what I was thinking the best approach would be.


Jesse - Mar 26, 2015 8:12:57 am PDT #23013 of 30000
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

The only risk is underselling yourself, if they have the position budgeted higher. (And on second thought I would use "and" instead of "but." Always and!)


lisah - Mar 26, 2015 8:38:04 am PDT #23014 of 30000
Punishingly Intricate

I just changed my resume to switch all the verbs in the bullet points listing my current job activities from present participle to present tense based on askamanager's advice.

Still haven't begun tackling the cover letter, though.


Polgara - Mar 26, 2015 9:26:53 am PDT #23015 of 30000
Karma is a cat, sleeping in my lap cuz it loves me. ~TS

Of course I immediately think of reasons why none of my ideas or these meet ups will change that, after all, I have met a few people I get along with, but they live in another town, or they are always busy, or or or.

msbelle, when I first moved to L.A., my only people were Buffy people. A large part of the reason I was able to make the move was because I knew there were Buffy people here. And then I eventually became friends with my work people (took years, 'cause I always assume no one wants to spend more time with me than they have to).

And then Allyson tasked me with making a non-work, non-Buffy friend. Literally, it was an assignment. And together we chose a woman from our kickboxing class to reach out to, and bring into our fold. Which worked.

And then, years later--years where Suzy was still my only non-Buffy, non-work friend--I was in a rut and desperately needed to get out, and I joined a Meetup group that played word-related board games, and a pool league. I actually joined a lot of meetup groups, but the word-game one was the only one I ever went to, because I had an acquaintance who was also in the group. Joining--and going--to those two groups were the best decisions I've made in the past five years, as I've made lots of casual friends and several really good friends.

This is my long-winded way of saying, just go. Pick some groups of varying interests, and just go. They won't all work out, but some will, and then things will get awesome. I know it's hard, but it only takes one moment of courage to actually walk through a door, and then the rest takes care of itself.

Also, {{{hugs}}} and I love you!