Allyson, do you have a therapist or someone you could talk to professionally? That seems worth doing -- this is too much to deal with on your own.
Raise your hand if 'ew.'
Buffy ,'Same Time, Same Place'
Natter 73: Chuck Norris only wishes he could Natter
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Jesse - Jan 15, 2015 7:14:08 am PST #15294 of 30000
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Glamcookie - Jan 15, 2015 7:19:39 am PST #15295 of 30000
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
Oh, Allyson. I am so sorry.
Maria - Jan 15, 2015 7:21:18 am PST #15296 of 30000
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
Allyson, I'm sorry. I'm so, so sorry. There are things none of us should have to see or hear. It doesn't make it better, but we love you. And we'll do whatever we can to get you through this.
JZ - Jan 15, 2015 7:22:23 am PST #15297 of 30000
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
Thank you for sharing that with us. It's searing and unimaginable and you absolutely should not have to carry the weight of that memory alone.
There is mercy in that someone who loved her told them.
This. It's bleak to no comfort, but a kind and polite stranger would have been even worse, would have broken them even more badly (and they might not even have wailed or pleaded, but might have felt compelled to keep their shit together until after the call was over, even if it wrecked them even more -- but you are an emotional safe place for them; you're on the inside of their circle of absolute unguarded trust).
Anne W. - Jan 15, 2015 7:23:01 am PST #15298 of 30000
The lost sheep grow teeth, forsake their lambs, and lie with the lions.
Allyson, much love to you. I'm sorry you had to go through that, but I'm glad it was you and not some stranger who broke the news to ita's family.
Pix - Jan 15, 2015 7:24:03 am PST #15299 of 30000
The status is NOT quo.
Oh Allyson. So sorry. No words are enough. But you didn't do anything wrong. You did something impossibly difficult the best you could.
Pix - Jan 15, 2015 7:25:04 am PST #15300 of 30000
The status is NOT quo.
And I needed a new post to say...
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO THE NICEST!
P.M. Marc - Jan 15, 2015 7:28:21 am PST #15301 of 30000
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
Oh, Allyson. I am so sorry you have that weight on top if everything else.
DavidS - Jan 15, 2015 7:33:14 am PST #15302 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
God, Allyson. So hard.
I still vividly remember the anguish in my Mom's voice calling out to me after she got the call that her father had died.
WindSparrow - Jan 15, 2015 7:33:29 am PST #15303 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Oh, Allyson. My heart is breaking for you. Trudy and others have already said what I would, and better.