Ugh, let me clarify, because I don't want this to go pear-shaped:

David, my comment isn't about you; I only wish that this fucking healthcare system had people in it who considered the humanity of the patients in the way you're suggesting. I definitely did NOT mean "You wouldn't change things because you're evil." I meant "The system has become fucked, and being a part of it means fuck-all will continue to happen."

My comment is about the healthcare system, which increasingly doesn't give a shit about the people shuffled through it. I know I'm cynical and grieving, but it's broken as hell, and the people who run it do not give a shit.

Unfortunately, Tep's right. Sending it to a hospital ombudsman, though, might help a little. To a consumer advocacy or health care reporter might also help, especially if you could find one who either is a migraineur/euse or knows and loves one would also help. ED chairs, it'll make fuck-all difference.

I think no one who's a patient advocate would ever make it as high as head of ER. It's all about cost-effectiveness and covering the department and hospital's ass from any hint of lawsuit. You get a bean-counter who has no frame of human suffering for reference.

That pretty much applies in every field these days, I think.

I know ER doctors, one of whom is actually the director of an ER. And he would not give a shit about one patient's story. He's incredibly callous, he does think all patients who ask for pain meds are drug-seeking, and has a pretty dim view of the fellow humans he's supposed to heal.

I understand David's impulse. I want one of those people to really see ita and know what they did to her.

In honor of ita, the blood test I just got took three sticks.

I understand David's impulse.

Oh, I understand it, too. It just feels so futile. And, again, I know I'm being cynical and grief-y and tired.

I can probably stop railing about the healthcare system. For now.

So much this. My mother's brain tumors were not caught because her doctor wrote off her increased pain as drug seeking and cut back her migraine meds.

Oh god, this is terrible. Honestly, that's got to be malpractice.

It's a whole mindset that's got to change. Not only about how much drugs to give and when, but to whom, and who "deserves" pain relief and who's probably lying.

I remember Melisa saying, what difference does it make if I get addicted to the drugs? I'm going to have to be taking them for the rest of my life, which is probably going to be short anyway; why does it even matter if I'm addicted to them? I thought it was a reasonable point.

(Not in bed yet, I know)

A friend of mine is doing something amazing right now. While the healthcare system is Israel is better, privatization and not enough budgets made it go from OK to shabby in the past few years (for example: number of doctors and nurses positions in hospitals didn't change appropriately since 1972, while the population has doubled).

After going through a lot of troubles over a back surgery, she started collecting letters from people who have had the rough end of the stick of the healthcare system. She's sending them, 2-3 times a week, to the Ministry of Finance, Ministry of Health, and to the Prime Minister's office. Solely but surely, she got press attention, and the Minsters' attention. It's really an amazing project.

I can't even think about the clusterfuck that is pain management in this country right now. It makes me so angry, not just for ita, but for everyone else that needs it. It's wrapped up in so many layers that have nothing to do with pain, and people suffer needlessly.

I celebrate Betsy's good news for her husband and son. I celebrate the cat on my lap, purring. I celebrate temperatures in the double-digits. I celebrate the blessing that is community.