Dump away Vortex. It's what we are here for. It's still fresh for everyone and I'm still at the wanting to scream at everything stage.
This is what we've been doing and we'll keep dioing while everyone needs it - a gathering of the family, the clan, the tribe. Not the wake or the memorial service, but when loved ones come together in the aftermath and try to just deal.
When one of my grandfather's passed away, we knew it was coming, we were all staying in turns at the house, and when he finally passed. More of the family came, we sat with my grandmother, we sat with each other and told stories and held each other.
When my cousin died we gathered at one of my aunt's house, there was no coherence. We'd all known since the night before but we sat and cried, and talked and at times laughed and just tried to let it sink in and be there for his mother and be there for each other.
We can't all be together physically but we're in our home. To give and receive support and grieve and just be there. A vigil to get through the first shock and pain.