Giles: Helping out with the dishes makes me feel useful. Dawn: Wanna clean out the garage with us Saturday? You could feel indispensable.

'Dirty Girls'


Natter 72: We Were Unprepared for This  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


§ ita § - Oct 01, 2013 7:06:50 am PDT #7459 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

^^ What askye said. I think she has a surprising amount of that still pushing her rep.


Connie Neil - Oct 01, 2013 7:17:24 am PDT #7460 of 30000
brillig

Oh, yeah, America's Sweetheart heartbroken by the exotic beauty who lured Her Man away. Unfortunately, Her Man is ecstatic with the exotic beauty who loves kids as much as he does. So while Brad and Angelina are the poster parents of Celebrity Parenthood, Jennifer looks more and more like "Oh God, I Must Have a Man!"


Trudy Booth - Oct 01, 2013 7:17:38 am PDT #7461 of 30000
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart

Is there any point in posting a Snopes link on the FB of a family friend, pointing out that her copy-pasted screed against Obamacare isn't actually factual?

I know the answer is "No", but I had to ask.

I tend to Snopes people like that with a "That's pretty scary stuff. Fortunately, its not completely accurate..." and THEN I Snopes 'em.


WindSparrow - Oct 01, 2013 7:40:27 am PDT #7462 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

I tend to Snopes people like that with a "That's pretty scary stuff. Fortunately, its not completely accurate..." and THEN I Snopes 'em.

My line tends to be, "I see that you are concerned about ____. So you will be relieved to know (summary of Snopes results). For more details, see (link to Snopes page).


WindSparrow - Oct 01, 2013 7:41:46 am PDT #7463 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

Burrell and sj, I am sending out the ~ma for your sister and uncle.


JZ - Oct 01, 2013 7:48:00 am PDT #7464 of 30000
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.

Oh, yeah, America's Sweetheart heartbroken by the exotic beauty who lured Her Man away. Unfortunately, Her Man is ecstatic with the exotic beauty who loves kids as much as he does. So while Brad and Angelina are the poster parents of Celebrity Parenthood, Jennifer looks more and more like "Oh God, I Must Have a Man!"

Honestly, at this point I wonder whether she herself actually cares about Having A Man so much as keeping the publicity machine rolling by being who everyone expects her to be.

I also wonder (while knowing damn well that it's none of my business) whether she quietly doesn't actually want any kids at all, ever, and is just making the PR-approved noises because how can you continue to be America's Sweetheart and not want kids? Because, really, there are plenty of either home-grown or adoptive single moms all over Hollywood, and if being a mother was a huge priority for her she would have had no trouble long before now finding either an amiable pretty boy to knock her up or a kidlet in need of adoption. But even now, even today, when I try to imagine Jennifer Aniston or any other American Sweetheart shrugging and saying, "Nope, I like my life exactly as it is and I just don't want children," the only public reaction I can imagine is an obnoxious scolding shaming shitstorm of epic proportions.

(And, probably, a lot of women quietly thinking, "Thank God it's not just me... I really hope I didn't say that in my outside voice.")


Kate P. - Oct 01, 2013 8:14:59 am PDT #7465 of 30000
That's the pain / That cuts a straight line down through the heart / We call it love

OK, I feel a little guilty for having good news in the midst of the stupid fucking shutdown that is going to make life significantly more difficult for a huge number of people, including many of our own, BUT:

They offered me the job! WOO! And now I'm about to schedule a meeting with their HR dept to talk about salary/benefits/etc. So, my question to the hive mind: In my phone conversation with the library director, who just called me to make the offer, he said that based on my experience and their "metrics," they can offer me a salary of $[redacted], which is more than I'm making now, but I would like to at least try for $[redacted]. Can I still negotiate for a higher salary, or would you assume that the number is more or less set in stone? (This is a private K-12 school, FWIW.) I know most public schools have pretty rigid salary steps, but I don't know as much about private schools. Does anyone have any thoughts/suggestions?

I mean, I know the answer is Always Negotiate, but... eep! I don't have much experience with this.


Dana - Oct 01, 2013 8:20:02 am PDT #7466 of 30000
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.

Always ask for more. It can't hurt, and if they can't offer salary, is there anything in terms of benefits that you can ask for?


Theodosia - Oct 01, 2013 8:21:58 am PDT #7467 of 30000
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"

No, don't feel bad, this is Really Good News, Kate!

(German proverb: sadness shared is halved, happiness shared is doubled.)

Sorry I don't have any advice on negotiating. My response to a job offer is pretty much always rolling over on my back and showing my soft white belly.


Jesse - Oct 01, 2013 8:24:02 am PDT #7468 of 30000
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

Yay Kate! Sure, ask for more -- why not?