Yup! Love them.

I didn't Necco was a Boston thing. Conversation hearts are a great favor!

New England Candy COmpany!

Ah!

We had no wedding favors. We were young and hadn't been to a lot of weddings yet (ours was the first among our friends, by a few years), and it didn't even occur to me as something you were supposed to do. Also, my dad did most of the planning because my mom was so ill at the time. (And it was a great wedding! But he wouldn't have thought of them either.)

Sometimes now I fantasize about a big anniversary party, where I could do some of the wedding things I would have done at the time, had I been older and more me, if that makes sense.

It makes total sense.

And you know, favors -- eh. I just ate the candy and threw away the box.

I actually love that idea, Amy.

As they say, youth is wasted on the young. Sometimes, in my officiant experience, weddings are wasted on the newlyweds.

Oh dear. I just found most of the Fashion Week shows online. I could be here a while.

I'm watching yesterday's Ellen, and she has this WWE wrestler who just came out. So I googled the story, and apparently a reporter went up to him at the airport and asked if a gay person could be successful in the WWE, and he was like, "Yeah, you know what? I'm gay, and I'm very happy." So clearly the reporter was setting up some kind of gotcha thing if he said no, right? Good for him.

(Also, I forgot that WWE characters aren't necessarily the person's actual name -- he wrestles as Darren Young, but his real name is Frederick Douglass Ross (?) the THIRD. That seems like a way better name to me!)

We had no wedding favors. We were young and hadn't been to a lot of weddings yet (ours was the first among our friends, by a few years), and it didn't even occur to me as something you were supposed to do.

Well, favors aren't actually something you're supposed to do. It's just a thing that's gained so much traction that everyone does it, because everyone thinks they have to do it, because everyone does it. (I say this as someone who is, indeed, having wedding favors -- 2-piece boxes of Godiva. We like our chocolate.)

In fact, Miss Manners is very clear on wedding favors: "Who told you that you had to give out wedding favors? Etiquette has never thought of weddings as comparable to children’s birthday parties, where the guests might need consolation for not being the center of attention."

She ain't one to mince words, I tell you what.

t edit I obviously don't think there's anything wrong with favors (chocolate buzz, yay!), but I just wanted to offer Miss Manners' perspective on it. I think if I went to a wedding where there weren't favors, I wouldn't even notice their absence.

Chocolate is GOOD.

Etiquette has never thought of weddings as comparable to children’s birthday parties, where the guests might need consolation for not being the center of attention.

And what's weird there is that didn't start until recently, too, or at least I thought. I never went to a birthday party as a kid and brought home anything other than a craft or leftover cake. But these the favors are outrageous. It's a really expensive part of the party, no matter how cheap you go.

I think a memento is a nice thing, and like I said, chocolate is good! I also loved one wedding where we got these little plantable favors that would grow wildflowers.